moms and kids commonly treated like crap after adoption

Despite all the talk in recent years on television about open adoptions and being grateful to mothers for the beautiful gift of life-- in reality not much has changed. Open adoption agreements are completely unenforceable legally thanks to laws that were cleverly crafted by adoption attorneys. Parents that give up their children are still seen as irresponsible and the children are still viewed as "lucky that someone wanted them," and treated as outcasts by adoptive parents that see themselves as being from a better gene pool than the child. The ultimate point here is that if you are considering giving up your child for adoption you should know that like abortion, adoption is not an easy remedy for the situation of an unplanned pregnancy. There is no easy remedy for that situation. Overwhelmingly most people that are able to care for their child and don't end up regretting it forever--particularly 10 years later when they've matured and end up being more responsible than the people they gave the kid to. If you are an out of control drug addict, alcoholic, or mental patient and you feel that you cannot recover and be of service to the child, and or you are a danger to the child in any way-- you should do the responsible thing and ask for help. That can include asking family, friends, and even going with an adoption. However, if you are really just looking for an easier way out be forwarned:

Just like with abortion many people have turned to adoption for an easy way out, and unfortunately: have found nothing about it easy, and have indeed regretted it for the rest of their lives. So have their children.

Generally no one on earth is more protective of a child than his biological parent. Realistically, we all know that the world is full of horrible people, it would be foolish to think that some of them don't end up as adoptive parents. Think long and hard before you give up any and all ability to protect your own child from the horrors of the world.

We say this not to shame anyone, but because we wish this warning had been given to us.


Life with Adoption as told by those who lived it.. the Mothers of adoption loss speak out. Spanning over a 40 year period, we see that the more adoption has appeared to change the more it has stayed the same - still separating babies from capable, loving mothers.. and causing much destruction in it's wake. An Origins-USA.org production.

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[efdizzle09]

its probably not my place to say this, but i really think adoption should only be a choice for parents who are truely unfit. like drug addicts or people who are in poverty or who are abusive. if you are giving up your children just because you are "too young" or because you have to achieve more in your career, i say its time to own up to your responsibility and endure whatever set back you must make to raise your child the best you can. adoption shouldn't be the solution to make your life easier

[nounethicaladoptions]

The thing I would add to that is I this is that I think many, if not most young women give their child up under pressure, they think they can't do it. But its important to remember that the young don't stay young for long. Even if you are 16 and pregnant, by the time the child is 6 you'll be 22 and an adult who is a lot more responsible, when you get to be that age and that responsible you will likely really regret you gave up your child because it was a final solution to a temporary situation

[OlsenMania]

Well my cousin is 37 and her mother couldn't take care of her which is why we got her. She's happy and never once did my mom and them treat her bad as a kid...these people just had a bad experience. She's happy and when she found out she was adopted she didn't really care, her real mom dosen't want to see her so she dropped it. I'm going to adopt but some men are sad but oh well don't lay down until you're married and both are sure whta you want to do...there are too many mistakes in teh world

[nounethicaladoptions]

Maybe you just had a good experience, there is no way of knowing since there are no statistics kept on adoption and it is a multi-billion dollar unregulated industry. If you are referring to children as "mistakes in the world" maybe it wasn't as positive as you thought it was for all involved. Most people would chose not to refer to their children that way.

[t4705mb6]

Men, loving, caring and giving dads, lose their children too. This is not just a womans issue. I know. It happened to me.

[JohnWesleyMethodist]

I agree with this statement. Adoption is not God's will. Christians everywhere are so clueless on this issue that they think they are doing a good service and they aren't. If Christians want to do good they ought to help keep mom and baby together.

[efdizzle09]

@Ethiopia7711 adoption in ethiopia is different. those mothers literally have no means to raise their kids. if they themselves are in poverty, how can they feed another child? in the usa, mothers give up their children because the child didn't come at a good time in their life. although i sympathize with both, i don't think this is the same.

[Ethiopia7711]

As Ethiopian mom I feel you!

[cinnaminkym]

When a person adopts a child they are raising the child temporarily. That child will grow up to want to see thier parent no matter what people think! It is a natural response to want to know your true identity. My grandson was given up for adoption. My son and his girlfriend were tricked into an open adoption. They had no money to care for the baby and were told that if they had a change of heart they could get him back. They got jobs and were told to go home and moarn the loss of their baby!

[backyardphilosopher]

I placed my daughter for open adoption. The people who adopted her stopped contact with me when she was 6. When my daughter was a 16 she started being a teen and her parents didn't know how to react and abandoned her. My daughter lives down the road from me and we both realize I screwed up ROYALLY by placing her for adoption. I wish I never made this huge mistake. Adoption is a BAD decision!!! I wish I could take my decision back every day!!

[97karenlacey]

I always felt that adoption agency are rogue agencies with little oversight,who use young women like baby machines.

[fairlightdawn112]

Thank you so much for exposing this. I've known about this for years ! I was adopted and it was quite horrible. I found my real (not birth) parents when I was 16 yrs. old. I found out that they had been lied to by the adoption agency and the agency had lied to me as well, for reasons I don't understand. People don't realize what a rackett the adoption business really is.

[Reinpret]

i had no idea this existed.. this is shocking. totally unacceptable.