How To Deal With An Impatient Hearie?

Regarding how to deal with impatient hearing people.

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People & Blogs

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• ASL
• Deaf
• subtitles
• captions
• Wendy's
• Wendys

[Amionwi]

I am hearing, and I actually get that too, alot. I know there are stupid people in this world who aren't tolerant. I am learning ASL not only to better my understanding of this world, but also to be able to make life easier for any deaf customers I run into in my line of work. Plus I think they are better people half the time, lol. Usually in these situations I tend to think well she works at Wendy's. LOL! Plus you wouldn't want someone to be nicer just because someone is deaf. defeats equality

[seekgeo]

@Amionwi You are right on the money. I like your saying "wouldn't want someone to be nicer just because someone is deaf" - this is true. I don't want people to be extra nice just cuz I'm different and such.

[rquiksilver182]

I think it is terrible when I would be out with my deaf friends (I am hearing) and a hearing person would start saying something about us like we couldn't hear them. Sometimes, I would just brush it off and not let them know I could hear what they said. But when it was something really bad, you would laugh when you see how shocked they are when I turn around and say "Hey, a**hole, I can hear you. Think before you speak next time." HAHA. People are uncomfortable with what is different. it's sad.

[seekgeo]

@rquiksilver182 Wow, indeed, it's sad. That reminds me one time back in mid 90's when a hearing friend of mine and I were at gas station pumping gas. We were signing to each other and he overheard a group of people mocking at our signs and whatnot. He decided to ignore and NOT to tell me until after we left. He said he knew I'd walk up to kick their asses. So he didn't want to tell me til after, oh well. The group didn't realize he actually heard him the whole time.

[johnwbdw]

With both ears implanted, I am able to use the telephone and even go to the drive-up window at fast-food places and understand what they say. I usually get approached by a deaf person once or twice per year about "going against God's will" by being implanted. I tell them I had normal hearing for 18 years, but that makes no difference to them. I do understand your frustration about dealing with hearing people sometimes...

[johnwbdw]

I had normal hearing until I was 18 years old. My time in the USAF ruined my hearing and it got worse and worse and the years wore on. I started wearing hearing aids when I was in my early 20's. Eventually, hearing aids were almost useless. I could not go to a drive-up window and order for probably 25 years because I just couldn't understand them. I received my first cochlear implant in 2008 and my second (bilateral) in 2009.

[paganmom05]

I never understood people who act like that towards deaf people. I used to work at McDonalds, near the Oklahoma School for the Deaf and I was the only one I worked with that had a basic knowledge of ASL. On top of that I made it a point to learn a new sign every time a deaf person came in. Ignorance of something when the knowledge is right in front of you is unacceptable.Everything is a learning experience.

[rakw22]

Also while not the point of your story, the impersonation you did of the bitchy cashier cracked me up. I was able to formulate a VERY clear mental image haha.

[rakw22]

I am a hearing person, however to an extent I understand this situation as I am a Canadian living in Germany. I am learning German and getting quite proficient, however every once in awhile when I don't understand something and I ask someone to repeat themselves they speak extremely slowly, purposefully over enunciation every word in an obvious condescending manner. I generally just shake it off because after all they are working at Wendy's etc and I have a PhD position that I love.

[WickedElphabaFan08]

Hi!

I think that her rudeness was unacceptable, I understand you were hungry, tired, and stressed from all the traffic going home but I think that her rudeness needed to be adressed. Maybe you could e-mail or write to the corporate manager and that stores manager or just go in and speak with the manager on another day. I think its great that you take into consideration the idea she mightve had a bad day too but still... you should say somthing. and hearie??? rly? okay. fine.