What you need to know about addictions

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• Peter Gerlach

[Angelsdam]

Under activity addictions I would also include compulsion for self help resources. I think I have become addicted to this self improvement course. And I presume it is a strategy for trying to relieve inner pain. I hope that in the end it is not just an intellectual distraction to temporary escape from pain, but that I can achieve some real healing as well

[zabelicious]

Yes I did notice that. It happens all the time. I guess you don't like to hear that people have different views and opinions and prefer to close the debate. I am NOT lecturing and if that's how you want to see it, be it. I feel strongly about these things and I refuse to accept careless loaded wording. I have much respect for what you are trying to do and find it unnecessary to push ideas about a "God". When someone hits rock bottom, it is their conscience (i.e True Self?) talking to them.

[gercacn]

Apparently you don't realize that when you arroghantly lecture other people (like me), they (I) will stop paying any attention to your ideas.

[zabelicious]

I like many of the concepts you discuss about the cycle however, it sounds like you don't have much training in neuroscience. I would encourage you to investigate about brain development, endocrine function and how trauma affects the thinking process. Your explanations regarding Faith in higher powers (perhaps the magician subself) is just a silly cop out from a real more plausible explanation, which science can offer. Faith in anything can temporarily help but it doesn't follow it is the truth.

[gercacn]

You can learn to reduce excessive/chronic fears tro normal, when you're ready. See sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds/fears.ht­m

[zabelicious]

The only reason why I sound so dogmatic is because there is not enough room here to explain anything properly. I happen to know that what you describe is the result of a lack of development in the frontal lobe where judgement, analysis and reasoning skills develop with time but only if in a relatively safe environment. Being rational and self-aware is the ultimate result. Something psychologically wounded adults are incapable of doing, unless they retrain their brain and feel reasonably safe.

[sobear2]

Why is it that you guys always want to re-plant the fear seed?

[gercacn]

I wonder why you're so threatened by these ideas? Your arrogance, criticism, and sarcasm are common symptoms of being controlled by a false self. (wounded). Im glad you're doing well now. Stay tuned, friend. and see what you think in a decade or so.

[gercacn]

Faith in anything is believing without "proof." Spiritual faith is believing in the existance of an attentive, responsive Power that transcends human limits and understanding. "Dogma" is black-white belief and ritiuals without awareness. I have spiritual faith becuzse of real experiences of a caring Higher Power, not some Holy Book. Looks to me like you're pretty dogmatic" in your own way :-)

[sobear2]

I considered that you may be a decent person who is well intentioned. But, to tell someone who is actually doing very well for the first time ever(just shy of a year), that they are NOT going to make it because their way doesn't line up with your "technology " is just plain mean. I suggest that YOU are the one in denial.

Stop hurting people and face the fact that what you in the university was a waste of time. We don't need you..get a real job.