I just found out my dad is not my biological father

See my blog post: "Two Years Later: Revisiting the Discovery of My Donor Conception" http://wp.me/pAuSA-39

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[mmcinnis2006]

Hope you're dealing! I found out my dad wasn't my dad when I was thirteen - not because of a sperm donor, but an affair. It really rocked me - and still does. Both men were in my life the whole time. Just makes for a confusing Father's Day - and life. Onward, Philosopher King!! I'm astonished with/for you! xo

[TheScholarBookWorm]

@mmcinnis2006 I'm dealing great. Thanks for your well-wishes. Check out my latest blog post on this subject: "Two Years Later: Revisiting the Discovery of My Donor Conception" (see video description for URL).

[Kalgirl]

This happened to me last night. I feel pretty much the same as you, but I'm definitely confused as all hell. And curious. Did you find that people kept saying "Your Dad, is still your Dad! You shouldn't think about it too much." That's annoying me... because of course he is! That's not the point. I think your statement "It changes nothing, and everything" just about hits the nail on the head.

[TheScholarBookWorm]

@Kalgirl Sorry for the late reply. Yes, a few people said that to me, but not enough to annoy me. Sorry you had a bad experience. I hope you're doing well now. Check out my latest blog post on this subject: "Two Years Later: Revisiting the Discovery of My Donor Conception" (see video description for URL).

[ANGELBLU2042]

I am one of those who my father told me he was not my biological father. He'd caught my mother with a farm hand. No I understand why she and my brothers gang beat me and emotionally abused me throughout my life. I was nothing but an eyesore to her and she will go to her grave never apologizing for the pain and destruction they caused to my sense of worth.

[TheScholarBookWorm]

@ANGELBLU2042 Wow, that's awful. Perhaps this Psalm will comfort you: "But you, O God, do see trouble and grief; you consider it to take it in hand. The victim commits himself to you; you are the helper of the fatherless" (Psalms 10:14).

[patarbab]

Congratulations!

[jasminelambert12]

Thank you for this video. I am 24, And discovered today that my dad is not my Bio father. I have mixed feelings and really am feeling neutral about it. When I saw your video, I felt complete ease knowing that someone is feeling the exact same feelings about the situation. My identity too stays the same, I just have a new story to tell. I now have so many questions... And don't know where to start. What happened next on this journey of yours? Thank you VERY much for this video- smiles :)

[heyjeni]

btw... loved your line when you said... just need people to be astonished with... that's exactly how I felt! I found out Octobe 1st, 2010 - one year ago. I've since found out about my bioF and that it wasn't good news- which was acutally somewhat satisfying because I was fearful of the desire of a relationship on that end... and am now o.k. with not pursuing it any further. My Dad - was o.k. with the search and we're closer than ever- I believe-because of all of this. I hope you are too!~

[heyjeni]

Hi Travis,

I too found out later in life - though a little later than you I believe...47. I found out a year ago - through some family turmoil - not so nice. Anyway, as you, I'm also a Christian and as for my Father/Dad... nothin could ever change that!!! My mother had me out of wedlock and met my father afterward.. so that was a little wierd...not a sperm donor (as I would refer to the 'bioF', but an actual relationship'. Anyway - just curious how you're doing now... I've resolved - you?

[MEGAawsomeCOOLguy]

I just found out my dad want my real dad yesterday and I'm 15 but I feel the same as you I've been treated as a son by my dad

[JacksonTheAnimal]

... i just found out my moms going to jail for nine months and i havent seen my dad my whole life