U cant date 2 find a husband or wife!!!

Its like throwing a dart at a target 300 feet away. Everything has to be perfect.

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[etemuru]

Well...Eight mos. of dating has gone by & I'm struggling to find common ground or compatibility with my man. Now I'm having a hard time finding the exit door.... Its frustrating bc he seems to expect that I'll be around for infinity-and for me, the chemistry is there, but I should have checked for compatibility first & foremost.

[pinkkelephant]

that probably the best way to do it.

[stashpot80]

thats what i have been saying, that it seems best for me end up with somone who have activities with me where we not only have similar interests, but we have built a relationship that probably gets strong with time.

[pinkkelephant]

thank you. it only makes sense. i cant imagine meeting someone outta the blue and we are talking about marriage. black women have a bad habit of not interacting with black men before the whole idea of marriage even comes up for them and the first serious man they meet (when they hit 28 or so) they know want to consider marriage with. i dont care how old she is, if we meet outta the blue it will take at least 3 years before i even consider marriage.

[reignsupreme]

Good point pink. The problem is that when so called good girls are in college, they surround themselves with bum niggas. When they leave college they start crying about finding men on their level. Well damn, you had an opportunity to find a guy on your level in college. You wasted those years on trifling men. Who fault is that?

[cnell25]

Good vid!!

So many BW think they can play around in there late teens and early 20's, then focus on there education, then focus on there career, (cutting men totally out of the picture)

Then when they hit 30, Ok NOW im ready to get married and think men are supposed to start appearing ready to settle down.

Its just not reality!!!!

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[Lancia444]

Good on you Pink Elephant! Keep up the good work

[staylo37]

once again, you are absolutely on point. It makes me uncomfortable to see myself now-dating to find the husband, but subconsciously, I drop friends or people who are not on the same page as I. I am not into clubs, never getting out-I like going to lectures, educational forums, and jazz spots. I'm not skipping over, but I need to change my mindset that it isnt coming easy. I now need more friends that are not resistant to bm, aspire to be good wives/moms like me, and share the same interests.

[staylo37]

I cant knock you, you are right. the first part of growth is to be real with yourself. But some of us made mistakes- im not bitter but I will be 26, graduating from law school in may, and want to get it right. Dont give up on us-we were immature and blind. But I wont turn an eye to a player or one w/

"swag". I am highly intellectual, interested in someone on this level, dont care about clothes, material things, but character. Now I have payback-bad guys hiding in nice clothes. weeing them out.

[c00lwatter]

You are attempting to patronize me. Cute.

[mpenny226]

i agree but when I was fresh out of college, I was not ready to be a mother and I was about 28 when I felt like the timing was better.

[mpenny226]

yeah right..uterus risking? maybe he means having babies with them. Isn't that a risk on both sides though?

[mpenny226]

When a man wants excitement sex is not in the equation? really?

[c00lwatter]

Um...lettin' no good, thug ass niggas hit is raw.

Please don't ask me to dumb it down.