She's Got More Income And Education....... What About Him?/ Black Love Black Marriage

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In the African American community there are many examples of relationships where women have higher incomes and more education than their men. We received a question from a viewer wondering how should she deal with this because it is the reality in her relationship. Listen in and see how we answer.

B Intentional Family, Have you experienced this dynamic in your relationships---past or present? How have you dealt with this? Do you feel that the relationship is less likely to work out when the woman has more education and makes more?

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[pray4salvation]

I'm sad that eventually I will have to leave him if things don't change. How long am I supposed to wait for him to "get it together"?? Any advice would be helpful. He's smart but he seems to lack ambition to go out here and look for a job. There is some type of block inside of him that keeps him stagent. I have heard "this weeks is the week that things will change" a hundred times over. I'm tired of waiting but I don't want to just give up on the best love I've ever known.

[pray4salvation]

My man has a BA degree, I have a Associates degree. I work in a professional environment making good money, he works at a grocery store part-time not making that much money. He is a great father, and is a wonderful loving and encouraging boyfriend. We have been together for 2.5 years and I am trying to support him but this is making me tired. It's like I have the best/worst guy. I'm wondering if he's just lazy or is there some other issue that keeps him from attacking his goals head on.

[Kamirarenee]

Great video. I'm in the same situation. I just got engaged and 2x my b/f has lost his job due to the economy. I know he feels down, but I do remind him he's priceless in value because of his integrity, loyalty and emotional availability and will be a great husband. Others don't quite get it because they focus on materialistic values. I agree , the couple that can grow together and love will succeed.

[BronzeTrinity]

This is a hard one. I would like the man to have an education for the job security and because I think education just opens your mind so that you are a well-rounded person. Unless he has problems communicating then it has nothing to do with my interactions with men. He can earn less but I prefer someone with a stable career, not a job where he can be replaced by someone out of high school.

[mba2ceo]

Most women want Benefactors not lap dogs.

[prettiblackbuttafly]

This is a great video and it's so wonderful to see a happily married couple who are in accord with one another. You both seem like great people who have much to offer on this much attention needed topic. I agree with everything that was said because I feel that it's important to be able to build on the type of marriage / relationship you desire, rather than to come into one expecting that your spouse will or is capable of fulfilling every unknown requirement that you may feel entitled to.

[the1mshbic]

I think that society sets this standard that the man is supposed to be the "Breadwinner" & often times when a woman has a higher income than her spouse, she takes on that mindset and feels that her man is less than because he doesn't make as much money as she does & begins to emasculate him. I used to make more money than my spouse during the past 2 years of our relationship, the roles reversed & he's now making way more money than I am. Luckily, we didn't have that issue.

[xeen17]

When I first started courting my husband I was earning considerably more money than I am now and I remember one of my colleagues asking me if my he was as nice to me as he was because I earned more than him. I said "No! It's just the way he is!". Now I'm up in Leeds and earning much less than before AND less than my husband, he is still the same, loving, generous, kind, considerate man I always knew him to be. This is a serious issue that a lot a black women need to consider.

[nshouston31]

This was a great topic and Aiyana said something that really hit home,"Give credit where credit is due." You're right. Gonna work on that more. I've been so guilty of not doing just that, but I'll take your advice.