What Not To Say

This vlog is not a knee-slapper. But I wanted to reach out to the women who have gone through a miscarriage, like I did.

Like so many things in life, you can't totally relate unless you've gone through it. If I had thought about it before it happened to me, I don't think I would have felt as bad as I did. I couldn't talk about it for a while. But, as I lay in the recovery room of the hospital (since I not only had a miscarriage, but hemorrhaged badly and had to have a blood transfusion), the nice nurse told me she had four miscarriages before having her child. Geez! I don't think I could have handled that. She seemed so plucky, too.

It seemed people came out of the woodwork with their own tales of loss. People have had worse hits than my own, like the women who have to give birth to a stillborn child. Just heart-breaking.

But if you haven't gone through something like a miscarriage and are not sure what to say to someone who has, take a listen. And if you have gone through it, I'm sorry, and I think you will relate to this.

I'll always miss my angel.Share

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[HeroSteve]

I've seen your humorous take in some of your other videos. I was amused at your analysis of the wrong things to say. I thought since you were able to joke about it, you were past the grief stage.

The end of the video just sucked the humor out of me. What a sincerely tender and human moment. I was so touched that I had to comment on it - the first comment I've ever made on YouTube.

I am sorry for your loss, and I wish you well.

[mslewan71]

another dumbass comment, on the other side of that spectrum is if you have more than two children, the chicken heads who asks if it was on purpose...at least they didn't slap with you, it was God's plan...I lost, I know how I felt...and for those who say I know how you feel, shoot back with 'since when?' stupid.

[eire1984]

ok to all those who lost a baby i m sorry its horrible i dont know what it feels but my mum had a stillborn and even though i never meet him i love him and he is always part of our family

[Tonysmom89]

My father said, "no offense but this was a blessing" I've heard other ignorant comments but that was the worst. "You can try again" is pretty high on the list as well.

[ilovemyanamals12]

@CPVinish

thats cruel 

[CPVinish]

What are you doing.... go back to cleaning your house!!

[princesslisaxxxxful]

sorry for ur loss huni I lost my baby a few weeks ago and so many people keep saying the wrong things to me. x

[Sassymarkrep]

Sorry for your loss. Most times people don't think before they speak because if they did, they wouldn't say half of the things that come out of their mouths. Thanks for sharing.