How Long Does it Take to Recover From an Affair?

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Couples come to me all the time, frustrated that they haven't gotten over their incident of infidelity. Recovering from an affair takes time. There are no short cuts. Even after two months, in most instances, this news is still hot off of the press. The affair recovery period often takes much closer to two years, and sometimes longer.

By knowing this you can brace for the rocky road ahead and hopefully buckle down for the long term.

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Full Video Transcript:

Hi this is Michele Weiner-Davis, founder of DivorceBusting.com

Today's question that was posed to me, "Michele, how long does it take to heal from infidelity?"

I just had a couple in my office the other day and they had just discovered the infidelity a month before and they were still really hurting. They were thinking, "it's been a month, we should be over this already."

And I want to say, "Hello! A month is hot off the press." Even when couples come in and it's been a year after they've discovered the infidelity, I say pretty much the same thing. It takes a long time to heal from infidelity.

The initial crisis period can be over within the first few months if couples are dealing with it in a healthy sort of way. But it takes at least two years to feel like you've got your rhythm back and that you're back on track. When it comes to infidelity you never forget, it never goes away completely. It's just that the good times get bigger, and they last longer, and the memories don't quite sting so much.

But if you're someone who's having a really hard time, and it's within the first year, please don't judge yourself. Not only are you dealing with the pain of the infidelity, on top of that, you're thinking to yourself that you should be beyond this. You shouldn't be beyond this. Infidelity really gets at the core of the foundation of the relationship. It simply takes time to heal.

You probably need some professional help, but in the meantime you have to be patient because healing takes time.

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