Slut Shaming and Why it's Wrong

Seven Days Seven Topics - Day Uno (August 20th, 2011)

While I am fully aware that this is a bit of an unorthodox topic for a then-thirteen-now-fourteen year old to be talking about, it's an issue close to my heart, as some of my friends have been slut-shamed despite having never had sex. So many teenage girls call each other sluts and they don't know about the meaning behind their words and I know it's just ignorance but it pisses me off, so here, have a video about why slut shaming is total bullshit.

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EDIT: Well shit, apparently this is going kinda viral. While it amuses me that my most viewed video is also my least well-edited video (and the video in which I look the least appealing, sigh), I'd like to say a sincere thank you for the lovely comments and discussions you've launched me into. You're all spectacular.
...Except the trolls. I'm not a slut, guys. (lululul like i have the game for that... guys are just dying to get with the dorky feminist chick.)

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In response to some frequent counter-arguments:

1. There's no such thing as safe sex! Sluts spread STDs!
While it's true that you cannot be 100% safe, you can be more than safe enough with the proper use of protection. STDs can be avoided quite effectively. I have never and will never promote unsafe sex. Don't take my words outta context, yo.

2. No one wants to marry a slut!
Marriage can be a beautiful thing for a lot of people, I will never deny that, however, marriage does not, nor will it ever, define a person. Getting married certainly isn't my ultimate goal, and if I die without having married someone, I probably won't care, because I'll have achieved things far more important to me personally than that. Also, seeing as a big chunk of the US population can't get married at all, I think sluts can manage, dude.

3. You're too young to be talking about sex!!!!
Ah, the ageist argument. How you amuse me. First and foremost, my age has nothing to do with the argument presented in my video. It was mentioned in passing, as a JOKE, and I find it ridiculous that it's become the focal point of this entire debate. Look, I never really talked about sex. I talked about SLUT SHAMING. If you want to continue arguing that I'm too young to talk about that, well you should probably go into a high school. Slut shaming is everywhere. I'm merely speaking out against that cruelty.

4. Stupid Americans...
I'm actually Gallifreyan, jeez. (Or Canadian, take your pick.)

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[catastrophicize]

Get this girl a medal please.

[dobbyisnotafreeelf]

Hi, that is the stupidest thing I've heard in my entire life.

You're all for equal rights but women shouldn't be in management positions? Nope, that's not equal rights.

If you're saying that women shouldn't be in management positions because they're too emotional, step back a moment, and realize that not every person is the same, not all people have the same emotions/personalities. You can't generalize, because it doesn't provide a good representation of everyone.

[Mackenzie M]

Slut-shaming is directly correlated with rape culture, which normalizes and encourages rape, which this girls explains in the video. People who slut-shame don't necessarily support rape, but they do perpetuate rape culture.

[rstevewarmorycom]

They aren't telling you you're evil and nobody should like you, they just don't want to have restaurant-"sex" with you till you meet their requirements. You can decline to have sex with a slut if you're so stupidly inclined, but you haven't the right to decide she's wrong. And we all have the right to tell you you're wrong if you do.

[rstevewarmorycom]

So one thing does indeed lead to another, and you cannot merely choose one without actually choosing the other and its outcomes on your society. Your restaurant analogy is defective. The no shoes no service policy in all cases discriminates against those who either can't afford shoes or a shirt, or who have lost theirs or don't wish to wear one.. It's unrelated to rape, and it's not shaming.

[rstevewarmorycom]

We only affect each other, we cannot change our own minds, only others and other events can change us. A good definition of the self is that which cannot change itself. it would be like trying to pull yourself into the air by your belt. We are entirely made into who we are and what we think by the world we experience. We do not "choose" we do not "decide", even when we think we are deciding, our brain is chemical and cannot do other than the chemical reaction that is ourself.

[rstevewarmorycom]

Is shaming rape? Obviously not, but that's not what matters. Once you see the connections between why people and society does that and its effect on people's motivations and actions, it's obvious that both are all part of the same phenomenon. We do not choose who we are. You cannot, by any effort of will, change even the tiniest thing you sincerely believe. You could lie and say you did, but you'd know better.

[Jonathan Funcke]

The logic I was trying to point out is that you are forcing a correlation between shaming and rape, treating them as intricately linked and inseparable. I agree that it can perpetuate the punishment mentality, but the same can be applied to "No shoes, no service" restaurants (Does that mean the restaurant wants those customers to be mugged?). A person may slut-shame, but that doesn't mean they approve of rape, disliking clothes doesn't automatically mean they wish harm to befall that person.

[rstevewarmorycom]

Slut-shaming supports the anti-sexual religious ethic that by making normal sex less available encourages men who are deprived of normal sexual access to take it by force. It perpetuates a punishment mentality about sex for women, that they somehow deserve to be abused if they like sex as much as men so it's okay to rape them, they asked for it, right? That's the kind of shit antisexual religious thinking leads to.

[rstevewarmorycom]

There is zero logical reasons to believe anything you said. You expressed only delusional religious nonsense you were brainwashed with and have not properly questioned. Respect for someone is meeting their needs, including sexual. Religion tells us that good is bad and bad is good, irrationally.

[rstevewarmorycom]

Prolific sexual activity never in and of itself hurt anyone. Other associated failures did that don't have to be present. Use condoms, get tested, use birth control, limit alcohol or drugs, have safe groupsex parties where others can protect you instead of subjecting yourself to a larger more powerful drunken stranger who may wish to beat or kill you in private, these are ways to remove those failures and still have as much sex as you want.

[rstevewarmorycom]

You're just horny and pissed you can't get any of what you see. And well that you are, it's not fair, but in acting like an asshole about it you're making yourself even LESS likely to get any. If you tell girls they shouldn't dress skimpy, that they're bad for doing so, why would you expect them to want to ever take their clothes off for you? You'd be better off telling them they should take their clothes off and are good girls for doing so!!!