Asperger's - Message for parents: Fights and arguments

This video covers fights and arguments. I'm sure you've had more than your share of fights and arguments with your child, and they have likely gotten out of hand, often resulting in a rage or a meltdown.

When a child in such a situation tells you to leave them alone, what they are really doing is expressing, the best they can, that they are being pushed too far and are on the verge of losing control. When this happens, the absolute best thing you can do is to back off. Stop talking to them, give them space, let them calm down. If you continue trying to push it at this point, it will almost always result in a meltdown or a rage.

If the child runs to their room and closes the door, the same rules apply. They need to be allowed to calm down or they will lose control. They're trying their best to remain in control, and expressing it as best they can at the time. You need to recognize this and respect this. If you do so, your relationship with your child will be much better.

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[mikemagee77]

Thanks a lot bro! My son has been showing signs of Asperger's and rage for over a year now. We have just recently learned that he may have Asperger's, and I sought out videos looking for help in dealing with the rage and tantrums he has, and found yours. Great little video and very informative. Thanks again!

[31correlli]

very very true thank u for making a point hopefully they will listen

[ESAPOWER]

What's that accent?

[Amy2838]

Another thing parents (and other adults) should try to understand is that there is a difference between "negative" behavior that is a result of sensory overload, frustration, poor communication, impulsiveness, etc. and actual "bad behavior." Arguing over the first thing is only going to exacerbate the behavior. Picking fights over ASD symptoms will not "correct" the ASD symptoms, and can even create feelings of worthlessness and resentment. Recognize and respect your child's limitations.

[PinkPunkyKat]

You should do a video on special intrests!

[MrsAnxiety25]

Gotta have my boyfriend watch this video too... he's constantly following me around if I'm bothered by anything, then wonders why I'm even more mad at him or why I meltdown when he's followed me around for 10 minutes already  :P