Bonding - The Attachment Theory - Fathers' Rights

Reference; Using Child Development Research to Make Research on the importance of both parents to child development based on;

Appropriate Custody and Access Decisions for Young Children from Family and Conciliation Courts Review; Los Angeles;Jul 2000; Joan B Kelly; Michael E Lamb; Volume: 38 Issue: 3 : 297-311, Sage Publications. ISSN: 1047569.

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Representing Yourself in UK Courts and Fathers' Rights
Helping fathers sustain a relationship with their child or children through the courts - The 'joke' is that fathers do not have any rights in UK courts.
URL: http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=81A10E71888D1CE0

Child Psychology and UK Fathers' Rights
What is the research basis for decisions taken in family proceedings in UK courts. How does the attachment theory apply and is the concept of 'maternal deprivation' relevant?
URL: http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=82035E251E8904FA

Shared Parenting and UK Fathers' Rights
What is the research evidence for UK courts treating both parents with parity of esteem in the eyes of their children?
URL: http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=2CB98A5747F45CC4

Domestic Violence and UK Fathers' Rights
What is the research evidence, if any, for domestic violence against males?
URL: http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=210101D7300D8774

Mediation and UK Fathers' Rights
If mediation does not work why is it so popular in UK courts?
URL: http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=74BAEDDB694EC334

CAFCASS and UK Fathers' Rights
CAFCASS Officers make recommendations to UK court about children in family proceedings. But how do they operate?
URL: http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=8F4BE79AAA7919AA

Parental Alienation Syndrome PAS - UK Fathers' Rights
What is Parental Alienation Syndrome and why is it not recognised in UK courts?
URL: http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=A755B760996A10AB

Baby 'P' - UK Social Services and Child Protection
What guidelines do Social Services in the UK adopt to protect the children in their care?
URL: http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=5B775012D77A85F5

Fathers' Rights - Australia
There are mandatory laws in favour of Shared Parenting in Australia. How did fathers in Australia achieve this change in family law and why is it now under attack?
URL: http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=66581CF4D1660809

Fathers' Rights - Canada
Candian MP Anne Cooles talks about the problems facing young fathers in Canada.
URL: http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=27DC734E1297F7BD

Fathers' Rights - USA
Some of the issues faced by fathers in the USA.
URL: http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=3E64920A53E6AC84

evenToddlers - COMMENTS

"Very many thanks for sending me a copy of your interesting and informative guide on 'even Toddlers Need Fathers'. I much appreciate your drawing my attention to it".
PROFESSOR SIR MICHAEL RUTTER, 13th March 2002.

"I am very grateful to all those, like yourself who have written and particularly where you have been able to demonstrate your own thinking from the experiences you have had. Congratulations on your battle".
Former UK Home Secretary and father DAVID BLUNKETT, 22 March 2005.

"The PRIME MINISTER has asked me to thank you for your recent letter and enclosure. The Prime Minister does not issue photographs of his children and therefore has to decline your request. He has however asked me to pass on his best wishes".
1O DOWNING STREET, 8 March 2001.

"It was thoughtful of you to enclose a copy of your book 'even Toddlers Need Fathers' and HER MAJESTY has noted your concerns".
BUCKINGHAM PALACE, 26 July 2006.

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[glitchyt]

This is an awesome video, so what actions can a man take to join together with other men to fight for our rights as parents? Where do I start? How can I contribute to this great cause?

[evenToddlers]

@glitchyt

Many thanks for this kind comment. If you have a personal interest you may like to look at the Families Need Fathers FNF website. If you want to take a more active role I would recommend Fathers4Justice F4J who are presently on FACEBOOK.

Kingsley Miller

[Jayonesgirl]

Yes this is phenomenal critique. I am in a class called Chemical Dependency and the family. Bowlby was referenced re; attachment which brought me back to Piaget and earlychildhood connections. Great to hear a critique of Bowlby in the other clip. Dads are as important as moms. Rutter has some great insight on this - never trust the experts carte blanche!  Also, Bowlby WAS a stuffed shirt, despite his self perception. This is obvious.

[evenToddlers]

Jayonesgirl,

I think your comment sums it up very well.

Also I am a great admirer of the work of Rutter.

Many thanks,

Kingsley Miller

[ChristianKoehler]

Hello,

this is a great video and very valuable information.

I think children do need fathers the same way as they need mothers. And fathers do have the same right -and the same obligation- to have proximity with their children.

It is important to campaign this in society and politics. For example our German constitution -while social oriented and democratic- explicitly grants special protection to mothers only.

Christian

[evenToddlers]

Christian,

German law is very interesting because it is based even more on the Bowlby principle than our own in the UK.

As a result it has fallen foul to the European Court on a number of occasions.

Thank you for your comment.

Yours etc

Kingsley Miller

[chopsticksteve]

Men deserve equal rights to children period. It is stupid to base this right on if they do housework.

Fathers right of access to children is not based on what the mother or women want(i.e. if she is satisfied that he has done enough housework to earn it), it is based on the fact that this is what is right for children and what is best for THEM.

I am so sick of selfish women who talk about fathers rights as if it is a privilege.

Get over yourself and stop hindering what is best for the child

[IthacaSkinhead]

That is a ridiculous idea. Access to one's child is not dependent, nor should it ever be dependent, on how much house work a person does. This is just a red herring to serve to distract from the primary issue at hand, which is access rights for fathers.

[TargetPractice08]

@AnneFox7 wow somebody needs a hug

[AnneFox7]

@arialroller Why don't you go fight for gay rights somewhere else?

[AnneFox7]

@TargetPractice08 Why lie you hated your children and you attacked them to get at your wife. They'll never have a normal life they'll be miserable and unhappy but you are the one who is happy. I can't wait until they dump you flat and realize that YOUR HATE is all they have ever known. HOMOs SHOULD LEAVE kids alone. COME OUT and be with other male gays ADULTS.

[AnneFox7]

@IthacaSkinhead Stop pretending to be straight. YOU DON'T have to. BE WITH OTHER QUEERS adult QUEERS. You will never have breasts and a womb you don't own children . Go to adult men and be with them. STOP TRYING TO RUIN children's lives.

[AnneFox7]

@chopsticksteve Gay men should stop thinking that they will ever have breasts and a womb. They should get over their hatred of straights and be with other adult men. Bull queers and women haters should stop terrorizing children. You have rights to be with adult men now GO ABOUT YOUR BUSINESS WITH THEM. Stop hating us WOMEN AND CHILDREN ARE not yours to own.

[AnneFox7]

Child abuse by gay men's groups is unnecesary. Men now have rights to act as homosexuals whenever they want. There is no need to hate women and children. Children who are breast feeding and are cared for by women are healthier and better off. Men who are attacking children and hating them ripping them out of their mother's arms terrorizing them until they can not speak. Men who hate women should not be permitted near children. 50% of the population is female. GAY MEN should be with ADULT men.

[TargetPractice08]

Went thru a 6 year battle dealing with lies, PAS, etc ... constantly second-guessing myself if I was doing it for all the right reasons ... But emerged on the other side with full custody and now, years later, the kids are so much better for it ... Now the subject matter is the basis for an upcoming movie called "What Tigers Do," which carries a vitally important message for dads and moms alike ... being a parent doesn't always bring out the best in people ....

[MrINeedSome]

@Steentj3 Here in America I know of a man who had trouble getting custody of his four year old daughter that was living with his ex-wife and her boyfriend even after it was proven that the boyfriend's 17 yr old son was sexual abusing his daughter. He had to pay 20 grand just to get a lawyer to represent his case.