Coffee Talk - 2yr 3 mos post RNY - BRINGING DOWN THE WALLS!

Hi All - Sorry for the length. Lots to say and this really is a record for me though I do hope others find what I have to share helpful...so you won't offend if you choose not to view. I know everyone is busy.

A look back at what I feel my personal walls have been in getting refocused and re-motivated to lose the rest of my weight.

Hope you're all great. Thanks for watching!

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[Sexacjun]

I'm so glad you made this video. I, now, don't feel alone. I am in your shoes. I am disappointed in myself. I should be overwhelmed with joy instead I'm unhappy. I never made it to goal. I lost around 115 lbs but still obese. I'm searching for a healthy BMI and it's so far away. I'm almost two years out and it scares me. I need to get a game plan as well.

[neecyd63]

@Sexacjun Well don't give up! I think you should make a video about what you feel your walls are. It sounds kind of silly but you know verbalizing some of what I was feeling going through here really helped me. And I know it's only a couple of days but I am going to celebrate those couple of days of feeling like I'm re-energized. Is my life perfect yet...no...don't suppose it ever will be...which is good as it gives me something to work towards. Thanks for your support! .

[faithkp]

HARD CORE exercise like DAILY. Then I lose *little* bits here and there. It's hard to be motivated when I don't see large numbers dropping anymore. I also have a REALLY hard time not comparing myself to others. It seems like everyone who had surgery around the time I did are BELOW their goal weights and running marathons. I could still *stand* to lose 20 pounds. You are right that it is so hard to feel like a shining success when you never reached a "goal weight". MIND GAMES I tell you!!

[neecyd63]

@faithkp ...so it's really all about buckling down and getting back to it...and a big part of that will be dedicating the TIME necessary to do that...I do notice though that if I am 'good'... the lbs do start coming off again...so REFOCUS and discipline is what I'm working on...I can't imagine how difficult it would be with a family and for you a baby...all I have to worry about is me...so kudos to you and other mom's ...amazes me always!

[faithkp]

First... your hair is adorable :-) It's been a while since I have been able to catch a video of yours! I have to say that you are looking GREAT to me. I am right there with you as far as searching for motivation to lose more weight. It's hard when you already feel... say 90% satisfied with your weight lost to this point! I can eat anything and everything and maintain. I have to work DAYUM hard if I want to lose anymore. We are talking calorie counting, water guzzling, and...

[neecyd63]

@faithkp hey girl! I've been watching you...lol sounds like a stalker eh? Seriously ...thank you! Motivation is hard to maintain when life gets so busy and the losing slows...but if I'm completely honest with myself if conscious of my day to day actions...I KNOW why the scale isn't moving down...and it is hard work to get re-engaged with the whole process...but I'm trying...I too really have no restrictions as far as what I can and can't eat for the most part ..cont'd

[neecyd63]

@Kellawanda hi Kelli! Thank you. Intellectually I know you're right...and even 75% of the time emotionally I know you're right...I've just been wobbling a bit lately...but I have to say that hearing back here from all of you...who I might add have been the folks I've found so inspiring... helps oodles to bolster my confidence. I am proud of my maintenance in the past yr. I think verbalizing the struggles was a good thing because they don't feel insurmountable anymore if that makes sense!

[neecyd63]

@cabernetqueen it is about the process...and I've watched a few of your old videos Sal because I remember you standing tall and declaring you were done! You were still going to follow the rules...but you were happy with your weight and you were done! And I think that's a healthy attitude to take...so that's what I decided I'm going to do focus...follow the rules...and see what happens for the next 6 months...cuz that's when I'm going to go see a plastic surgeon here and start that process!

[neecyd63]

@cabernetqueen awww sweet sassy Sally! You know I have never considered myself accomplished...but I will do as Janie advised a couple days ago on FB and say Thank You. I almost started to explain all the reasons why I am not accomplished...why do we do that? But yes I do struggle with feeling less than worthy and so I worry sometimes people will find out I am a fraud and really don't know what the hell I'm doing...I mean I do better but I do still struggle with that...you know I love you!

[neecyd63]

@QuiltingConnieB Hi Connie..thanks! I have been super busy...but then when I feel like I've about hit a wall I do remind myself that it's only because of having lost so much weight that I CAN keep up the pace I have this past year....btw you are totally a rockstar in how well you are doing postop girl...I am soooo proud of you... I saw you in that turkey trot! wtg! Keep it up Connie....you are an inspiration!