Surviving Sexual Abuse - My Story Pt. 2

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[LanceHertford]

Funny how you have the same symptom as me of feeling bad for the people who hurt you, when they get in trouble for it. I've always cared more about the feelings and needs of people who are abusing (I mean even non-sexually) me (I mean, even coworkers, or authority figures) than I do about my own. It's like when you get sexually abused, you learn to believe that you aren't entitled to refuse to let other people abuse you, you feel like you always deserve it.

[KhrysHermary]

@LanceHertford

I couldn't have said it better myself. Thanks for watching.

[cherrilicious1001]

thank u so much!

[KhrysHermary]

@cherrilicious1001

Thank you, too! =]

[LanceHertford]

I mean, even when you're talking about wanting to seek legal action, I'm thinking in my mind "No, I couldn't do that to them".

[Magnesiumfire]

You are very strong for expressing this…a dark secret that many of us have but have not talked about. I don’t believe that you have to ‘get over’ it, as they say. Telling the truth about it, how you feel about it, is enough. Part of the dysfunction of our world is the poor valuation of the female. Her needs are not important, her contribution is not important, and her life is unimportant. We see things Fu@#%^ up presently in as much as we don't see the full humanity or worth of girl babies.

[BigJoeyfromBoston]

@KhrysHermary No prob! Sometimes talking to a camera can be very therapeutic!!

[KhrysHermary]

@PolarB36 Although I was always told that I had that right, I didn't believe it. Also, I did blame my abuser for many years. It took a lot of talking and an earnest apology from him when I was fifteen for me to feel like I had the closure I needed to stop feeling angry toward him. But my father is someone that I have a lot of anger for, for many reasons. This was only one of the things that I feel like I will never forgive him for.

[PolarB36]

@PolarB36 It is not uncommon for parents to deny that abuse happens. It is hurtful to you when those are the people that are supposed to protect & love you & when they don't it hurts deep inside. Right now it is probably easily for you to place alot of blame and anger on your dad verses your abuser and that is because it seems safer. As you heal u will be able to place the blame & anger on your abusers too. It's also difficult for children of abuse to know they they have a right to say no.