Why are my parents getting divorced?

This is a great question, although somewhat of a difficult question to answer because each divorce situation is different. While we can't exactly answer the question, "My parents are getting divorced. What are they thinking?" we can give some insights into what your parents may be feeling, what they think about you, and how you can respond.

In this video, Shelly shares a little bit about her story of getting divorced and how she felt about her son during that time. Your parents probably feel the same way about you if they're going through a divorce.

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[ngtanchon99]

I found out today that my parents are gettinga divorce. Im 12 years old, and I was so confused. Everything was fine yesterday at family dinner! Now, it's all messed uup. Advice?

[YouthQuestions]

@ngtanchon99 Wow, that's really hard to go through. Sorry to hear that! Our best advice is to know that any time parents get divorced it's not your fault. You didn't cause it nor could you have prevented it. Divorce is always a result of issues between the parents, even if they or other people say otherwise. It always is. Life will be rocky for a while, but hopefully it will get better soon. Sorry, man! :(

[eggsandbacon4me]

Ya today my mom forced my dad out after vacation I chased her out and left, posting this from my phone

[YouthQuestions]

@eggsandbacon4me Wow man, sorry to hear that! How are things going now? Any better?

[zackcor]

Another thing that teens and kids think is that they in some way think it is their fault for their parents getting divorced, Several times I had a teen say that and I told them that it was the farthest thing from the truth. Parents ultimately make that decision. Just like Shelly said it is the indifference's of the Adults

[YouthQuestions]

@zackcor Yeah, that's unfortunately a common feeling teens have when their parents get divorced. Thankfully, as you said, it's never true.

[Evansmustard]

I don't want my parents to get divorced but there isn't anything i can do :'(

[Deadeye831]

Im 15. I have an older brother and a younger sister. im 15, and want to join the military soon, but my mother decided to move on from my dad because he works out of country to support us. She wants a divorce. she told him she did not love him because he is only home every other 2 weeks. he doesnt deserve this, and its killing me. me and my brother are the only ones that know, and its hard to keep this from my sister, because nothing is set in stone yet. what can i do to make this easier

[ruthlessattitude17]

My Parents separated when I was 15, my Dad went of with another man its shit I respect my Dad for who is is but since then (17 now) my life is shit, Christmas isnt the same, we have had to move house, my mum is stressed about money all the time it sucks.

[eggsandbacon4me]

Cussed*

[OriginalAdler24]

You sure are taking on the hard questions. I want to be clear in my last comment.

It only takes one of the parents to be selfish. For example, physical and or mental abuse by one spouse on the other. That is selfishness by one of the parents.

If neither of the parents have abused the other, they just "fell" out of love, that is selfishness. The parents are putting their own happiness ahead of their children.

In any case, it's selfishness, and a sin.

[OriginalAdler24]

The answer is, there is NO thinking. There is "acting" out.

This married couple has been married for at least 13 years or more. Not only did they get married, they had at least one child together at least 13 years ago. By this time the 2 married adults should have understood their children come first until the children can go out on their own.

Selfishness. It causes marital problems, and leads to divorce. Either one or both parents are selfish, and are acting out their selfishness.