Alfie Kohn on Punishment

Sorry I had to post again - somebody in my family decided it would be funny to erase all of my videos.

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[Emmama36]

Thanks for sharing this video on youtube. I've been raising my children for 17 years without punishments or rewards of any kind (though we do use other things that Alfie doesn't talk about like setting firm limits, listening to feelings, special time, etc.) and my children are wonderful, responsible, disciplined people.

[naturemum]

Hi, that's awesome and I'm sure your children must have grown up very happy and felt very respected.

I have read a book by Alfie called Unconditional Parenting where he does speak about limits, feelings, special time and other things. I would also HIGHLY recommend Naomi Aldort's book Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves. She is awesome! I just didn't have a video to post of hers as she already has her own youtube channel lol

[BlebNevus]

That's only because "behavior analysis" is a euphemism for hard-core behaviorism, which is accepted by only a tiny, cultish subset of psychologists. The explanation in the video makes a lot of sense to most people who study child development.

[Nine00]

I was raised without punishment and boy did my mum get picked on by everyone for that. Listening to Kohn now I am certain that I will raise my children the same way!

[ilsesthings]

@naturemum @naturemum great stuff NM! :) another excellent book is Easy to Love; Difficult to Discipline (in terms of tools) and Kids Are Worth It (in terms of philosophy). thanks for putting this out there! :)

[ilsesthings]

@naturemum great stuff NM! :) another excellent book is Easy to Love; Difficult to Discipline (in terms of tools) and Kids Are Worth It (in terms of philosophy). thanks for putting this out there! :)

[SirMildredPierce]

"Sorry I had to post again - somebody in my family decided it would be funny to erase all of my videos."

Oh what did you do to punish them for doing that?

[FireGuyX]

@HeyItzMeDawg Every kid is different, the fact is most modern parents have beaten their child (both physically and verbally) including mines. I don't have kids, so I can't say Kohn's parental methods is better, but you have to remember everyone is different. Kohn's method shouldn't be considered universal. Oh and I doubt your parental methods would be better then mines.

[FireGuyX]

@HeyItzMeDawg you really are a stupid piece of shit. Are you a parent, do you have kids? I doubt you do, yes I would discipline my kids if they did fought with each other. So quit being an asshole, and quit making judgments strictly on youtube comments.

[HeyItzMeDawg]

@FireGuyX I don't understand you? Oh no, I can read quite well, thanks:

"If I was the parent I would beat the shit out of the son, as for me I would like to beat the shit out of Alfie Kohn."

That's quite a bit different from "He doesn't know the best parenting method", or "I would discipline the kids". You said you'd "beat the shit out of the kid", and (between you and me) I'm sure not beating the shit out of a kid is one hundred times better parenting. So yeah, Alfie Kohn's way is better.

[FireGuyX]

@HeyItzMeDawg lol you what's up with the personal shots you stupid piece of shit? Where did I imply that people should be like me? Again you're not understanding what I am saying, I am saying that Alfie Kohn does not know the best parenting method for every child. Bad parents are people who never wanted to be parents in the first place. IF I had two kids and they were fighting, I would discipline them one way or another, but that's me, that doesn't mean Alfie Kohn's way is better.