Alone-time in a relationship (AS)

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• asperger's
• syndrome
• autism
• relationship
• alone
• time

[vectorz85]

@TheAnMish: Did it not feel strange to be making that video with your friend there having to wait for you and watch you make that video? Assuming that she was right there in the room with you? I'd have felt pretty awkward doing that - I'd have been self conscious and concerned that my friend might feel awkward or bored!

[TheAnMish]

@vectorz85 A bit, yes. And I wouldn't make a habbit of it. But I knew it was going to be short, and she didn't mind. And I have a bit of trouble dropping something I'm doing before I'm done, which we also both understand, so in the end, though it was a bit strange, it still worked out fine.

[thebestwillow]

I am very lucky. I am engaged to a guy who has high functioning autism, and the amount of alone time each of us needs and when we need it is pretty much the same.

[TheAnMish]

@thebestwillow It's wonderful when that happens. Makes everything so much easier :)

[TheAnMish]

@michaelmcmichaelson I'd begun when she showed up, and so I asked if she minded that I spend a few minutes getting it done. She didn't mind at all, so there.

Pretty weird? Mebbe. I never said I was normal.

[TheAnMish]

@TheDevilguy676 Aspies do sometimes have a tendency to be obsessive/possessive about people who are important in their lives.

We can be very clingy. We can also be the complete opposite, of course.

So.. I guess as an aspie trait, this wasn't irreguar in any sense.

But you can work at it, to change your behavior in those situations, if you want to. It's very much possible :)

[Yodan82]

Being open and honest in a relationship would probably work best for anyone. I have seen a lot of break ups because of a lack of honesty to each other and themselves.

I am an aspie in a relationship with someone with hfa. When we are together and in no mood for social interaction we simply don't talk and do our own things but when we do want to interact we do so. Works fine. ;)

[ShroudedFury]

Could never be this way with my girlfriend.. Kinda comes across as needy and wanton like he'd be lucky if you approved him to spend time with you lol.

Oh well no need to reply and block me i NEVER EVER read replies so all replies will fall upon blind eyes =-)

[ShroudedFury]

Wonder why that guy dislike(s)/(d) you lol

[vectorz85]

@TheAnMish fair enough. She sounded quite cheerful anyway! Very interesting video, thanks!

[madlibsluver]

I'm the opposite. When I was in a relationship I couldn't stand being away from her. She said she needed a lone time but then when I went to college and she didn't she couldn't handle it. Typical NTs. Can't make up their minds!

[MrsRhythmNation]

I just got dumped by my fiance who suffers Borderline Personality Disorder. I still love him, but he couldn't deal with the contrast between my aspie clingy-ness and aspie-alone time. At the same time, I valued my alone time. Hopefully I find someone one day who understands.

[thebestwillow]

@TheAnMish oh yeah. definitely. in previous relationships if I said I wanted time on my own, the reponse was a major panic of what's wrong? dont you love me anymore? what did I do? ...gahh!