Social Anxiety

Still on the lake, but talking about social anxiety. And I tried to put in a video icon in the middle, but I guess I missed the middle! Also, YouTube allways cut off the end of the video. What's that about???

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[RedhotrickVersion2]

For me, when the phone rings, I do tend to anticipate what will happen but I pick it up. If I have to make a call though, like you said, it's very hard and I end up not doing it. It's awful.

[viddeliten]

When the phone rings, I can't NOT pick it up! =) Luckily. How do you work towards it being easier to make calls? I generally just try to do it even if it's scary. I know logically nothing dangerous can happen, but the fear is still there...

[RedhotrickVersion2]

Yes, I understand. What I do is I have to have nobody there in the room, or nearby because I would fear they'd critisize me. Also, I need to build up courage for a long time before I can even bring myself to make a call.

[viddeliten]

That is exactly what I do! I get angry if my boyfriend insists on bein in the same room. And then I sit and stare at the phone for a while telling myself that it is not dangerous and thinking about that I have to make the call...

[freazynaruto4]

thumbs up, ron from harry potter's sister

[twisteddaz]

Me too...!!

[mildpace]

i feel anxious to pick phone in the office.

[RedhotrickVersion2]

Oh I see. I know how you feel.

[charlietcc]

Let's leave the "standing still" part alone for now. Reacting resenfully to failure may be normal in the sense that most people don't know any better than to do it, but that doesn't mean it's healthy, or that YOU have to do it.

An excuse is a lie meant to cover up the fact that you overreacted, as serves as a means of escaping conscience. Self-judgment (getting angry with yourself) does the same thing. Either one compounds the original mistake.

Do you disagree with any of that?

[viddeliten]

I don't get it. By reacting to failure (seems like a human feature), and not blaming myself("make an excuse for it"), I overreact and judge myself? I get confused... What do you mean by "stand still for the realization of the mistake"? How do I "stand still"?