Dating With A Chronic Illness

A video about my thoughts/feelings on dating with POTS (or any other chronic illness).

Sorry for anyone that commented etc on the first upload of this! it was all out of sync so i had to re-upload! I promise i didn't delete anyone's comments! haha.

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• postural
• orthostatic
• tachycardia
• syndrome
• lyme
• disease
• dating
• chronic
• illness
• health
• invisible

[TheSomberStar]

This was very comforting to watch, thanks. I've been suffering with panic disorder for six years now, since I was nineteen, and it's been extremely hard dating living with this condition; it's definitely had a huge impact on the three relationships I've been in. I find, especially as a male, that it's much harder to date having an illness because the majority of women, moreso than men wanting in women, want someone who has a good job, bright future, drives, etc. and I don't have any of those.

[radlikemad]

@TheSomberStar Sorry to hear you've been dealing with a chronic condition too. I can definitely see how it would be although very similar, in some ways different being a male in this position. I think we all just need to trust that there are people out there that will love us for us, no matter what we can/can't do or have/do not have. stay strong!

[dmbfan07cb]

I have a severe panic disorder and I have lost some friends and some girlfriends over my illness. My heart races all the time and I always have head pressure. The only time where I feel almost normal is when I am medicated on klonopin. Sometimes I feel like my heart is so fragile, it just skyrockets with very little movement. Most of the time I am afraid to go out places because I cant just lay down anywhere you know and that is the only time I feel best is when I am in bed.

[radlikemad]

@dmbfan07cb have you been tested for POTS? some of what your saying sounds very similar to it and a lot of us are misdiagnosed with anxiety/depression since so few doctors actually know about POTS

[monogirl3]

i got ill when i was approaching 17 so i'd had a few boyfriends as a healthy/capable person. what i've found most difficult with dating since then is that no matter how much you like eachother, how much they say they understand, they just can't fully grasp how hard it is to live with something which dictates your actions like an illness does. letting people down all the time is horrible for me AND them & i always feel racked with guilt/anxiety about it. we need men with the patience of saints :)

[radlikemad]

@monogirl3 very true!

[innerbeauty1000]

thank you so much, this video was amazing! explains it perfectly!!

[LucaBlightBadass]

No one understands my illness, everyone keeps saying when are you gunna get a girlfriend but its hard when i dont know how im gunna feel one day to the next! Alot of guys are judged by there masculinity bit hard to do when feel like crap!!!

[willbonsey]

about it anymore. By the way, this is the first video i've ever commented on on youtube.

[willbonsey]

always have to bring up the illness as a 3rd family member as you said. So where do we go from now? I don't really see a chance of anyone sticking through it with me besides my guitar. Too bad southern california girls can't understand what you do. Thanks for posting this. It's really refreshing. I've been doing the opposite these days because the doctors can't figure out exactly whats happening. So since i don't have cancer stamped to my forehead, people don't understand and i just don't talk

[willbonsey]

You hit it dead on. I got sick when i was 13 also and had to drop out of school and everything. I'm the most outgoing balls to the wall person i know and you're right, the most frustrating thing is feeling that you are not yourself and knowing that people are thinking that is just how you are even though if you could you would be doing such better things. Having to incorporate "can't" into my vocabulary sucks. It's been 7 years now, I've also basically given up on trying to find someone since I

[jessical1969]

This is an amazing video. I find your words so very true.I am so sorry you have had this for your entire dating history, but you have a great fighting spirit

[sckuykendall1234]

Many thanks for this video! I needed to hear all of it. I suffer from a chronic illness and am starting to date and am struggling with how and when to tell someone about my illness.

[UnionMetalhead]

ive been solo for 5yrs and i have to admit to feeling better that way but most people dont share my view admittedly