I used to have that fear as well, but one day I got tired of ppl in my life pass me by so i put in the back of my mind that I didn't care if ppl didn't want to hang out with me because even if they say no at the end of the day I will be by myself anyway. at least when I look back at my life I wont say "why didn't I try". So please don't be afraid to put yourself out there.
yeah i'm the same way i dont know what to do :( I want to have a 22 year old birthday party lol but im afraid that no one will come if i have a party :/
I'm the same way... my best friend since 3rd grade moved to LA and now I kind of don't have a social life. He always planned everything. He always called me to hang, he'd always have plans that he invited me to join in on and now that he's gone I just stay at home. I've thought about calling other people but the fear of them not being open to hanging out scares me little... it's part of the reason I will never throw a party, I feel like people won't come.
I know you're not looking for sympathy, but I am sorry that you feel that way. The issue I have is that most of my friends live so far away that to "hang out" would take extensive planning to do. That's why my wife and I are on Facebook, so I can "talk" to them or just check their posts. But I'm sure you will get out of this phase, maybe. :P
I'm 43 and still have this problem. I don't spontaniously visit friends unless they invite me first. Unwilling to step out of my comfort zone I guess :)
@LoneWolfREV ^^^
fecklessman 5 days ago
Wow, it is really sad because the world is missing out on a really nice person :(
LoneWolfREV 1 week ago
I am the same way... I never want to be the plan-maker haha. It's also why I hate telephones... just feel like I'm bothering people
PastafarianPriestess 3 weeks ago
I feel that if I click the "like" button I'm kind of making fun of you. I also have terrible social skills at setting up hang outs.
OpieTheMighty 3 weeks ago
I used to have that fear as well, but one day I got tired of ppl in my life pass me by so i put in the back of my mind that I didn't care if ppl didn't want to hang out with me because even if they say no at the end of the day I will be by myself anyway. at least when I look back at my life I wont say "why didn't I try". So please don't be afraid to put yourself out there.
PallyNamedGaibe 3 weeks ago
yeah i'm the same way i dont know what to do :( I want to have a 22 year old birthday party lol but im afraid that no one will come if i have a party :/
ISwimWithSharks69 3 weeks ago
Same here.
Haven't had any bros over to chill because I never start the plans for chilling.
Guess that as a collective we have to find a way to start the party.
SuperBrobot 3 weeks ago
I'm the same way... my best friend since 3rd grade moved to LA and now I kind of don't have a social life. He always planned everything. He always called me to hang, he'd always have plans that he invited me to join in on and now that he's gone I just stay at home. I've thought about calling other people but the fear of them not being open to hanging out scares me little... it's part of the reason I will never throw a party, I feel like people won't come.
csandreas 3 weeks ago
I know you're not looking for sympathy, but I am sorry that you feel that way. The issue I have is that most of my friends live so far away that to "hang out" would take extensive planning to do. That's why my wife and I are on Facebook, so I can "talk" to them or just check their posts. But I'm sure you will get out of this phase, maybe. :P
TheMikecri 3 weeks ago
I'm 43 and still have this problem. I don't spontaniously visit friends unless they invite me first. Unwilling to step out of my comfort zone I guess :)
EdEditz 3 weeks ago