How do you forgive after adultery?

Chris and Cindy Beall walk us into the second topic surrounding Adultery, forgiveness. After confession and exposure happens there is a choice for forgiveness. What does walking through that look like?

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• adultery
• forgiveness
• confession
• exposure

[notdeceived]

Well meaning Christians often underestimate the spiritual damage done by adultery, that it breaks the marriage bond. They then equate forgiveness with staying married. But one can forgive and still divorce. Often divorce is the most merciful choice; better than a lifetime of bitterness and misery.

[kweencessX]

@kodkid - ...if I can "forget." Unless someone hits me over the head with a baseball bat, it is impossible to forget, for any HUMAN being, not just me. Yes, God is Good, he is a changed man; but neither you or her or even he knows if it will last. If you did it once, you can do it again, easily. Like he did not know it was wrong the first time. Look, I know for sure I will never cheat and I damn well deserve someone who will not cheat on me. I will forgive, but taking them back is another story.

[jamieseiple]

@notdeceived You underestimate the power of forgiveness. A lifetime of bitterness and misery? I would say that is the problem. The only thing that breaks the marriage bond is choosing to divorce. Their is NO SUCH THING as irreconcilable differences, only hardness of heart. Divorce is an ultimate act of unforgiveness. Forgiveness means no longer holding on to a debt. If someone truly repents, forgive them. It is never totally just one person's fault. Make changes not divorce.

[TheLandOfTears]

@kodkid Your an Adulterer dude, you will forever be a cheater, if you can't be loyal to god? than you can't be loyal to anyone. Go read your bible it tells you to stone Adulterers. In the the bible Moses found one of his right hand man committing adultery he and the woman were both stoned.

[TheLandOfTears]

these people are full of shit, if a person committs adultery? he is cheating god, and he will cheat everything that will follow.

[lucy9359]

@notdeceived forgive him wow I would have such a hard time to forgive him alone without having to stay in the marriage on top of it...He has already put me through hell and back in our lives no adultury but a whole lot of neglect when home on the blackberry if he is ever home b4 my kids go to bed...driving us to the brink financially again and again...if he did that on top of it no way, no way, no way, would I put up with it, would be the last straw for me!

[auntstacey123]

@notdeceived What I meant about listening to well-meaning advice in the last post was not a criticism on the advice itself but about the people who listen to that advice, take it to heart but yet their situations don't change or don't turn out the way they expected. I didn't wont anyone to think I was criticizing the advice itself.

[auntstacey123]

@notdeceived Very well-said. I feel for people who listen to well-meaning advice from other Christians that if you pray & do this or that then God will restore your marriage. Sometimes a marriage CAN be restored but there are times I have seen fellow Christians pray & do everything right yet still have to leave. I think if people are not prepared for that reality, then it can do alot of damage to one's faith & cause alot of anger towards God. 

[esaldana41]

@kweencessX I feel sorry for you because I know that I fear God more than anything a human being can ever do to me. I never had a relationship with God therefore, I never fear him. It is not true if you cheated it does not mean you will again. Haven't you ever done something wrong and not repeated it again.

[GodLovesUs100]

@notdeceived its understandable that a spouse would be going through a hard time and i understand that, but forgiveness is such a beautiful thing because it removes all bitterness and anger and truly pictures the gospel of Jesus Christ in one finding immediate forgiveness though they have "spiritually cheated" on Christ. it is truly just a wonderful thing when the Lord patches a fallen marriage back together

[FUwogs]

i'd fuck her

[muabnegief]

fuck that shit marriage is like private property a bullshit to limit our freedom and well being as human, let us all shit on that system that sucks!!!!!!!! enough is enough.