S3: Debate on Open Relationships Part 1

In response to ADTV, we debate open relationships! And I really mean, debate.

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[marioques]

Read or listen to Sex at Dawn.

Jelousy is not natural but acquired as all human emotional suffering is conditioned since our childhood.

If two people are happier with each other even if they are attracted to other people why not.

I've been 21 years in "monogamous" relationships (3) but it was not necesarily natural.

I've met an old open couple, very joyful and united for more than 20 years with children and all that.

If monogamy was natural nobody would have temptations.

[matt3184]

@yourkingprince You are acting as if it is like this difficult thing to understand. I understand it completely. What is so difficult to understand about two people with committment issues who feel it is necessary to hoe around with someone else while pretending to be committed to one person. I never said it doesn't exist...I know it does but that fact that it does exist doesn't make it right. Crackheads exist too but does that mean what they are doing is ok?

[yourkingprince]

@matt3184 you can say it doesn't exist if you like, but it's happening every day. And there is nothing wrong with it. Fear of what you don't understand doesn't mean that it cant' work. it just doesn't work for you and I. But there is nothing unfaithful about agreeing to mess around. Especially if it's something 2 people want. You can't based your logic in this situation because you don't understand it sir.

[matt3184]

@yourkingprince I would ask you to show me the defination of the term open relationship but you couldn't do that because it's not in the dictionary. That term, like I said before, was created by people who are in an "open relationship" to make them feel better about what they are doing. FYI Wikipedia is not a dictionary.

[matt3184]

@yourkingprince Cheating "by definition" is also to be sexually unfaithful. Unfaithful "by definition" is to not be true or constant to one's sexual partner or spouse.

[yourkingprince]

I don't agree with @matt3184... lol. Cheating is being deceitful and lying and if 2 people agree to have an open relationship than it isn't cheating by definition. Therefore their is nothing to say that an open relationship can't be as strong as a closed relationship. I see no difference. The only difference is the terms of their relationship. :)

[matt3184]

I think people in these kind of relationships only call it an open relationship because cheating sounds very negative. But either way it is the same action....whether your partner knows about it or not you are still having sex with other people and that is cheating. How can you do the same action but call one cheating and one an open relationship? Who cares if you both agree to it...you still are cheating. Call it what you want to make yourself feel better about it but it is what it is.

[matt3184]

I understand people have many different views on what cheating is. My idea of cheating is not only cheating on your partner but cheating the relationship. It's like a game...if you are sitting there playing a game and the person you are playing with makes their own rule or changes a rule to win...that is cheating. Just because the person let you know they were going to do that does not mean it isn't cheating. If you allowed it to happen...you allowed them to cheat.