How to Deal with a Flirtatious Boss

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He's not exactly demanding sexual favors, but his flirting is getting really gross. What's a girl who likes her job to do?

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Diplomacy
And documentation

Step 1: Assess his behavior

Now, don't be offended, but we have to ask: Is he really coming on to you, or is he just a sociable, flirtatious kind of guy? If it's the latter, just ignore it.

Tip: Do your part to keep the relationship professional. Don't chat about how your last two boyfriends cheated on you and then expect him to know that discussing sex is off limits.

Step 2: Discourage his behavior passively

Discourage his behavior passively. If he stands too close, step back. If he suggests you should do something outside of work or floats a sexual innuendo, suddenly remember a pressing work-related question or stare at him blankly.

Step 3: Confront him

Ask to speak to him privately, and let him know that while you appreciate a laidback office atmosphere, his "friendliness" is distracting you from doing your work. For diplomacy sake, make it sound like your issue, not his.

Tip: Use neutral "I" arguments like "I feel uncomfortable discussing Brazilian waxes with you," as opposed to the accusatory "You're making me uncomfortable."

Step 4: Document everything

Start keeping a file on every inappropriate thing he says and does so you'll have back-up if things get out of hand.

Step 5: Report him

If he refuses to shape up his act, or if his behavior feels aggressive or threatening, file a formal complaint with the personnel department. Sexual harassment isn't in his job description, and dealing with it shouldn't be part of yours.

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[wakamoleee12]

Step one; Cover up your god damn breasts.....

[synthetickat]

"You can tell"? How? Please consider never going on the internet again.

[superninja4545]

@ that last part his hand was like a spider...... An old ugly one

[Twdee2]

i'm sure if her boss was really cute she wouldn't mind him being flirtatious

[zek281]

fk him and get a promotion

[berto0666]

that letter was made a day after i turned 18 lol cool

[ascolti]

Can I just add that's it not just women who are sexually harassed by men. When I was in my 20's I had to make a formal complaint against my female boss after weeks of her suggesting "interesting" (to her) sexual things we should do together.

When I complained, I was told by the female HR manager that I should really take it as a compliment and just "get on with it". Instead I left and moved on. Nobody was interested in taking my case. I guess that's equality for you.

[Twdee2]

@danhayesgroup4 if you don't mind me asking,was your boss unattractive or did you just want to keep a professional relationship with her?

[cindygrewal1]

Who would flirt with her...

[epic1element]

pepper spray

[danhayesgroup4]

I think it's unfair that it's a Guy hitting on a Woman. Personally I have been sexually harassed by my female Boss. What made it even worse is that I had to tap it or else my male work mates would have called me a fag. *Shudder*

[Hamyyz]

Uhh well for me it's the other way around cause I'm a guy and my boss is a girl