Sexual Frustrations & Insecurities.

Dealing with sexual insecurities when it comes to dating.

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• ftm
• f2m
• trans
• transgender
• female to male
• gender dysphoria
• gender identity
• gay
• lesbian
• queer
• sex change
• tranny
• transguy
• lgbt
• colormequeer
• sex
• intimacy issues

[tosgem]

I'm a "bio guy", what you describe seems normal as part of the male experience. We all feel like we can't compete sometimes. You might say "wow, I feel soooo sorry for you, at least you have a dick", but people are never happy. Why do you think guys act macho, show off, buy cars, join gangs, or try to make money. If you had a dick, or if I had a 10 inch dick, we'd find something else to feel inadequate about. Also, things could be worse - I may as well not have a dick as it has never been used.

[Valkyrieroller]

As a women who really likes sex a penis is overrated. I am married to a man and it's great, but I've had really hot sex without penis's being involved. I'm just saying... Maybe you should try dating a bisexual girl. I think you are a hot guy, and it's not just how you look. Your voice is amazing. You share your heart in these videos. You seem all guy to me, even the way you talk (and I'm not talking about the voice). Thank you for sharing a part of yourself in these videos! ...

[Mr777andrewz]

@nabakoful not to be rude but that was kind of an ignorant question. perhaps you should watch some of his other vids to get a better clue about what's going on. ;) I mean no disrespect, u just dont seem educated enough as to whats going on.

[JessicaWearsPrada16]

seems like a bi or pansexual person would b better to date than les or straight. i've dated 3 f to m people and i honestly have never judgeed anyone on gendar i am pan sexual and just my thoughts:) because it woldnt matter what u have to them.. they love u for who u r

[SexMagic95]

my god, you're so hot!

i identify as a bisexual, find one of these and they might find you hot as hell as a man, and will not mind going down on you 'transgenitalia' as one of the ftm friends calls it :P

[TheSnowyice]

Oh! Just had an idea, other than transwoman bisexual woman would be a good match for transdudes. See, there's a loop hole for everything. x]

[TheSnowyice]

cont. It will be pretty hard for anyone like us to find girlfriends/boyfriends though and right now that's really tough for me to deal with, despite the lack of personal bodily dysphoria that other transpeople have. Especially transsexuals. Unless you were to date a transwoman, it's definately not easy to come across someone that fully understands these issues, however it's not impossible. There's really nothing one can do about sexual function/attraction though because that's just nature. =-[

[TheSnowyice]

This sounds like a Greek tradgety. :( It is sad and depressing-people commit suicide because of this all the time. The fact of the matter is though, is that once you look past your body, it's okay to be different and everyone has insecurities. Personally, it took me years to accept myself. Now when I look in the mirror, I don't feel like a boy in a "girl's body." Because it's not a girl's body, it's mine and I'm a boy. Although, I don't really feel dysphoria very much. To me it's just genitles.

[kayla748]

I feel the same way. I have to somehow explain this stuff to my best friend, as I am attracted to her and I get jealous of other men she pays a** loads  of attention to. I keep starting fights with them to get them off her. I know I can't compete with them for the lack of a dick. Its not good, and I'm not looking forward to the conversation. So d*mn depressing and angering.

-Kyle

[spin036]

Dude, I know exactly how you feel. My ex swore up and down she loved me, but after a year and a half she left because I don't have what bio guys have.

[alvinandyounoob]

btw, NINJA TURTLES POSTER FOR THE WIN