The "Christian" Dating Game: Part 2

Where does dating belong in the church? Should Christians date? What does the Bible have to say?

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[heartgirl40]

I don't think this is fair... I'm a Christian young woman who has dated and am STILL waiting until marriage. Dating does NOT equal sexually active.

[identity313]

@heartgirl40 - Purity is very important and I am glad you see it as such. However your view of being sexually active is the action itself. What did Jesus Christ say in Mark 7:14-23 and Matthew 5:28. The sin is not simply the action but even the thought of it. If your thoughts were impure during your relationship then you have sinned before God. This is why we hear Christ say, "cut off" and "pluck out" as well as the Apostle Paul who says "flee youthful lusts" (2Tim. 2:22). Dating is dangerous!

[heartgirl40]

To determine this, I'm friends with them for a good while first, so as to be able to more objectively assess their character. I also don't think that dating relationships should be prolonged. Either you're headed toward marriage, or you're not. Alone time should also be extremely limited and dates should always occur in public or with friends, I think there are plenty of ways for two people, who are fully-committed to purity, to safeguard themselves within a romantic relationship

[identity313]

@heartgirl40 - Yes I agree that if dating is not followed in a manner that the world views it, then a relationship could remain pure. But this would mean behaving in a way that is holy. There would need to be Christian parents involved as well as elders of a church. To act independently in any way of the relationship would be unwise and could result in a great deal of spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical damage

[identity313]

@heartgirl40 - The practice of dating as we see it in today's culture is wicked and impure and should be avoided. I pray that you will carefully consider this and trust God to direct you to be a light in this dark world. I can recommend a few books, if you'd like, that teach what Christian young women, such as yourself, should learn in regards to dating and courtship. God Bless and thank you for watching the video!

[casablanca4381]

@identity313 i don't necessarily agree. my brothers dateed theri wives for 7 years before marrying and my sister dated her husband 9 before marrying. alll 3 of them have happy fulfilling marriages. it worked for them to date a long time. part of theat they were in school.. and wanted more finances before marrying which is a wise idea

[Abbakidd]

@ZeroSixtyFive stoning young girls who got pregnant by the age of twenty, is that not what he said?

[888crazychick]

AMEN

[ZeroSixtyFive]

This fella is fanatic and dangerous, stoning young girls for dating? Just like those bearded Jihadists in the middle east and them insidious Zionists who trick Christians to do the dirty work for them in the name of god, all same out dated forms of mind control. Sad for true spiritualism and humanity ...

[kyl64]

@heartgirl40 Courtship in the sense that we are spending time with another person of interest for the sake of getting to know them better. Getting to know someone does not involve kissing and PDA. The world wants friends with benefits, but Christians want friends with intent of marriage.

As a side note, courting should be done with caution as well. We are all humans and the ideas and thoughts of lustful youth still exist. I'm sure you understand. =]

[kyl64]

@heartgirl40 I feel the conflict in these discussion is a mere definition of dating. As once said, dating today is considered to be sinful and unholy. The way dating is today involves a lot of alone time, physical embrace, and so forth depending on the "depth" one has had in terms of dating. In worldly view, those things are MUST. But as Christian, we are towards the idea of courtship.

[mamainmancj]

all have sinned and greatly offended the holy God of the bible. the just punishment is death then hell. thats how holy righteous and good God is. God is also love and deshires to give you mercy. 2000 years ago God became a man suffered and died on the cross paying for the law that you broke in His lifes blood. what you must do is repent turn from all sin and trust alone in Jesus Christ today for your salvation.

[heartgirl40]

@identity313 I hear what you're saying, but I don't think it has to be. I think there is (or at least there should be) a difference between dating "in the world" and dating that goes on between believers. I don't think that dating and righteousness are mutually exclusive. Of course, I don't that a dating relationship should be entered into lightly. As it is, I only date young men who I feel I could potentially marry.