Authoritarian vs Permissive Parents and Healthy Relationships

How to balance responsibility and freedom in parenting to bring up children who are capable, have self-discipline, feel loved, and enjoy life.The positive motivations of authoritarian and permissive parenting as well as their harmful consequences when parents are too strict or too lenient.

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[alisonpoulsen]

Yes, it's very much like Authoritative parenting, the difference being that there are consequences rather than punishment.

[alisonpoulsen]

Often parents who push or criticize their children simply want them to avoid the mistakes they made and truly want them to be what they view as "successful". While their intentions are good, they often cause pain, feelings of inadequacy or rebelliousness. An extreme case of over involvement is seen in "Black Swan." Good luck being able to separate emotionally, yet, have empathy for their shortcomings. It might help to learn some "nonviolent communication" or go to counseling with them or alone.

[alisonpoulsen]

Interesting. I'd like to hear an example. It is true that permissive parents sometimes swing to anger out of frustration.

[counsellingniagara]

Great video on the dichotomous styles/implications between "authoritarian" vs "permissive" parenting..check this out! 

[alisonpoulsen]

@counsellingniagara

Thank you! I appreciate it.

[alisonpoulsen]

Thanks Joan!

[ImagineX999]

My mother despises it when my opinion opposes hers. Whenever I do something she does not like, she tells it to my dad (whom is currently in Afghanistan) and makes me out to be a terrible child, and he always takes her side. Whenever I try to confront her about things I wish to change, she yells at me and tells me how appreciative I am, and usually threatens corporal punishment (in those words) Inside of me, I start to feel rebellious and get my siblings to join me against her.

[SeattlegleeK21]

Hi thank you for this. I was looking up topics about strict parents all night yesterday because I got into a huge lecture with my parents on Friday. I felt that I was a disappointment every time I made a mistake. They expect me to behave and do well, so there's little appreciation. Thanks :)