Becoming an Agent of Collective Healing

Arjuna Ardagh discusses how you can apologize and heal on behalf of the collective. How an Israeli can apologize to a Palestinian, how a white person in South Africa can apologizes to a person of color, and how a man or a woman can apologize on behalf of their gender.

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Education

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• Arjuna Ardagh
• Collective Healing
• Masculine
• Feminine
• James O'Dea
• Gay Hendricks
• Manifesto for Conscious Men

[mycollaborative]

I have tried to post a response FOUR times. Are my responses not being posted because they disagree with the premise that collective apology is good for apologizer and victim? If my comment is "pending approval" for it's point of view, please e-mail me at AlanEGross@gmail.com Hope you believe that honest discourse is better than unilateral censorship. Cheers, Alan

[translucentdialogs]

@mycollaborative

your response is right here, and has been since you posted it

[translucentdialogs]

@mycollaborative

your response is right here, and has been since you posted it

[glu6ten2]

I am a child survivor who lived under the Nazi regime from 1933-39. As the only Jewish boy in my school, I was treated like an outcast.  My father was sent to Buchenwald and an axe was swung over my head while my home was being destroyed. I returned to Wittenberg in 1989 and received apologies from my Hitler Youth classmates which led me to present my Power of Forgiveness workshop, and speeches at schools, churches, etc. I was recently made an honorary citizen of my home town.

[IndigoEye75]

I Like very much! Arjuna, are you coming to Germany this Year to do a workshop like that with the apologize ritual you talked abaout here? Thanks so much fors sharing.

[ChicagoDreamer5]

Thank you for this beautiful video, & thank you for the powerful story about the Swedish woman and your incredible bravery & sensitivity to take on the darkness, face it and her, and do what it takes to cause healing. I LOVE it that I got to hear her reaction to that powerful interchange, and I thank you with all my heart for sharing it. Inspired by your example, I apologize on behalf of women for the hurt, shaming, criticism, and closing down that we have done to men. So Sorry for the hurt.

[mycollaborative]

I have tried three times to post a comment here. One time a message appeared saying something like "waiting for approval". Was my post blocked? Please provide instructions by e-mailing me directly at AlanEGross@gmail.com

Thanks, Alan

[MrGarthjohn]

Thank you. The wonderful thing about this type of approach to healing is that it allows the one who feels victomized a chance to genuinely feel gratitude in a direction of a place that gives pain. A great way to bring a person to the present and deliver them from the illusions that have been manifested by fear.

[vestala7]

Arjuna, thank you for demonstrating this universal healing approach I participated in a retreat years ago for divorced Catholics. In a very moving ceremony, we each had a personal exchange with three members representing a nun (female clergy) a priest and a member of the laity representing all the members of the church. One by one, each apologized to me for anything that had been done that was not supportive or loving and asked for forgiveness. It was so powerful, unforgettable.

[mycollaborative]

Arjuna: Thanks for your heartfelt video advocating collective apology. Your message resonates with the commenters below, and apology may help some victims of male violence to heal and some of the apologizers will feel helpful. However, for me and some of the critics of your manifesto, an apology without complicity seems dishonest. Instead of reinforcing group identity, I prefer an approach which acknowledges and offers remedies to victims. For me service & empathy trumps group apology. Alan