Sick of being shy and quiet; Afraid to make a fool of oneself. What to do?

A viewer says she is afraid to talk because she is worried about making a fool of herself. Basically, she is sick of being shy. As Marie explains, people probably aren't giving what you say a second thought. And even if they are, who cares?

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[mariedubuque]

14sjakeB--It would be good if you did say the wrong thing one time, and then you will realize that it is ok! And nobody will care. They will still talk to you, and it really won't matter. Don't be afraid to make a mistake. We all do. It really is ok. You've got to just try to have fun and enjoy life. You can do it.

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Rico--Tell me what the problem is I will try to help.

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Lovernutella--It's hard when you are trying to join a group that is already formed. They have these little inside jokes and all that. You will fit in. It just takes time. If you can't think of what to say, ask questions. Ask more about something that was just said. For instance, if someone is talking about a certain movie, say, "who was in it?" Or where is it playing? Anything you can think of to ask. It makes you sound interested, and it's a good start.

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goarmy--You sound like you are too worried about what they think, so you are afraid to talk. I know this is hard, but start talking to these people, and whatever they want to say about you, so what. Go ahead and let them get to know the real you, even if you think you'll make a fool of yoursef (you won't) and just have fun. You won't be with these 35 people for all that long. You'll all go in different dirrections eventually anyway. So for now, just talk, make the best of it and study hard!

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Loveyourwhiteshoes--you can do it!

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Dezireex097--You're not! You're just not meeting the right people. Not everyone is compatible with everyone. So, sit back and listen, and find out what they are interested in, and then ask questions based on that. Or chime in with something similar that you experienced, or that happened to you.

[Svetlana150]

Easy to say, hard to do...

[NewYorkcookies4times]

i do try to open up a conversation but sometimes i feel like im annoying the person when i talk i feel uncomfortable and just a big fat fool when i stutter sometimes i find that i just naturally becme friends with certain ppl and they say that i dont seem outgoing until they talk to me and get to know me ....idk it sucks being shy

[Ash7038]

i really like this video...

[ha1ly529]

thanks i think this will help

[NextGenGamer115]

This didn't help me at all, I'm sorry :/

[ad56ful]

wow!! u just answered my question!! i was always really shy to talk to people n had no friends!! i started to talk to people n i am making progress!! this vid actually helped me even more!

[peekabooiseeyou64]

I want to thank-you for these videos. I am a person who is so damned quiet it totally depresses me. If I have a topic to talk about I am fine. But, if I don't then I am quiet as a clam. It is embarrassing. I am 47 yrs. old. I have gotten better over the years, but I still have problems. I appreciate these videos because it makes me not feel so stupid. Please keep these coming because they are helping people alot. You are a great lady. Thank-you

[MrKirbinio]

@Svetlana150  if its easy to say then say somthing lol

[MrKirbinio]

im joking ;D