"Observation" NVC Nonviolent Communication

"The Honolulu Nonviolent Communication Practice Group presents Mary Mackenzie and Christa Morf, certified NVC trainers in a workshop on the "Intention to Connect." This is a review of the first step of the NVC process: "Observation"

For more information:

Mary Mackenzie's website: NVC Academy: http://nvctraining.com/

Center for Nonviolent Communication: http://www.cnvc.org/

Empathy and Surfing: http://www.noogenesis.com/nvc/surf_nvc.html

Category:

Education

Tags:

• NVC
• Nonviolent
• Communication
• Intention
• Connection
• Observation
• Mary
• Mackenzie
• Christa
• Morf
• certified
• trainers

[duenyen]

So for example, if you say "The movie was good" that is a judgement, and it invites debate.

If you say "I enjoyed the movie" this is NVC, since you are reporting a feeling. Being specific, such as "I enjoyed the part where the one actor confesses his doubt, it brought tears to my eyes." This invites connection with the person you are conversing with, rather than debate.

[petsmart22]

i dont get it

[duenyen]

J Krishnamurti is fond of saying "Observation without judgement is the highest form of intelligence"

[1958boomergirl]

Debate in and of itself isn't necessarily bad. It depends on the subject matter, which emotion & how much emotion is injected into the said debate, and maybe even the socioeconomic status of each individual involved in the debate. It only gets bad if it escalates into bickering or outright fighting.