What to do if you feel socially awkward: Not worrying about what other people think

A viewer wants to know what she can do about feeling socially awkward. She has a hard time meeting new people and worries about being judged. As Marie explains, that is her number one problem!

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Howto & Style

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• feeling
• judged
• meeting
• new
• people
• socially
• awkward
• situations
• group
• settings
• shyness
• being
• shy
• worrying
• about
• what
• think
• at
• school
• work
• parties
• isolated

[mariedubuque]

dontbegoingthere--I can't tell you how many times I have done the exact same thing! We all say things we wish we could take back, that we think sound really stupid. But I guarantee, the person you were talking to probably thought nothing of it.

[mariedubuque]

perezcalibre--Pretend like you are talking to one person only. In fact, and I know this sounds crazy, but look at the door in the back of the room and pretend it is your best friend. And talk to that "person." That way, you come across as friendly and personable, and you don't get caught up in people's reactions. Good luck!

[mariedubuque]

whites188--The more you can find out about that person, the easier it will be. If you know he/she is a music buff, you can talk about what you like what he likes, etc. Ask some questions, talk about someone you both know. For instance, "Did you hear ____did____" and that will get the conversation going about what so-and-so did or where he went. Try to find what you both have in common and go from there.

[mariedubuque]

Thanks so much!

[jeh0193]

This is definitely me. Thank you for your tips! I really appreciate it. :)

[tbirdtricia]

Thanks for your videos and sharing!

Tricia

[Prima20Ballerina]

hi there, thank you for another great video! there is this guy that i really like and im outgoing but i just can't be with him, i feel so shy and i really want to get to know him i want to be able to converse with him. do you have any ideas? i just want him to maybe like me back but i know that won't work if i can barely talk to him, do you have any suggestions? thank you again

[EricSchwin22]

Most people hate me at work for no reason...so I took your tips and didn't care what people think of me. When I surrounded myself with positive people and focused more on them, the people that hated me approached me and started talking to me.

[lexiiegarcia]

this sounds crazy but reading helps you to talk a little more

[lexiiegarcia]

i don't go out that much and when i do, i feel awkward and out of my place, i also looked up other advise to help me, but at the end of the day i know that i'am not quiet and shy, i'am fun, funny, random! i just need to show all those people that think i'm shy that i'm not shy!

[LovingtheWild]

I'm shy and i feel social awkward.I know this is caused cause i spent the most of the time at home without communicating with other people,without talking to other people so when i go out and i'm like with a lot of people i feel like i'm from another planet and there were so many good guys that i liked them and liked me and i let them get away cause i'm too shy and i don't have confidence,i want to change that so badly.I have searched so much for tips on the internet but they couldn't help me

[Zaku186]

KILL EVERY ONE WHO LOOKS AT YOU!!! thats what i do and i think it works

[caller347]

I suffer from being socially ackward. This made me feel a bit better about it and now I know what I should be really focused on.

[u8myshorts20]

Sometimes, I feel that way. The main solution is being yourself and not caring what these people think of you.

[USGirl22]

Tremendous thanks for this video. You words and expressions healed my paranoia of displeasing/upsetting people and caring too much about what they think. I'm gonna listen to this video frequently as I practice letting go of the fear and allowing others to know the true me.

[fractalsoul28]

I think your wrong. Not everyone that is outgoing is being a better actor. When people are socializing in a fluid and mutually non-judgmental manor, none of it has to be an act.