How To Offer Constructive Criticism

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Pick your words and prepare your manner carefully if you really want to help with advice and criticism.

To complete this How-To you will need:

A plan of attack
Respect for others
Knowledge of the issue
Listening skills
Humility

Step 1: Reflect and prepare

Reflect on what you want to say to the person and prepare a clear message. Be honest with yourself regarding any ill will you might harbor.

Step 2: Maintain respect

Maintain unconditional respect for the person. Everyone, including you, is doing the best they can.

Step 3: Know the situation

Document and praise the other's efforts, intentions, and accomplishments. Before raising reservations about their performance, be complimentary.

Tip: Try to conduct the conversation privately, away from prying eyes.

Step 4: Listen closely

Ask questions and invite them to explain their view of things. This could change the criticisms you offer.

Step 5: Consider their power to absorb

State your case, taking into account their compromised power to absorb information in such a tense circumstance.

Step 6: Criticize the behavior

Criticize the behavior, not the person. Accept criticism as well, knowing that mistakes are normal for everyone.

Tip: Follow the Golden Rule of treating others as you would be treated in all your dealings with others.

Step 7: Expect realistic results

Expect no more from others than you would from yourself. Craft achievable goals with their participation so you're both on the same page.

Step 8: Reinforce the message

Reinforce the message to get agreement on what both parties understood, and what the plan for correction will be.

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[xoANONiMUSox]

nobody is first! get over it!

[IBeHatinOnU]

fuck constructive criticism. it's all about kickin your roommates' asses when they don't wash the dishes

yezzir

[connerjd]

That is the problem with our society, not enough constructive criticism.

[connerjd]

@IBeHatinOnU Obviously, you are an idiot to the definition of constructive criticism.

[connerjd]

Everyone needs constructive criticism. Otherwise, we don't learn from our mistakes.

[Srslysrsbsnss]

Now that add wasn't too bad.

[dionstap]

who takes notes to bitch at someone??

[SuperCaNtStAnDiT]

F DAT!BOY...U BETTER GET OVR N WASH DEES DAMN DISHS!...U AINT GOTS NO MAID IN HERE!....

[thejosh51720]

or you could just not be a asshole

[GeGeMus12]

they fucked after he washed those dishes ;)

[sarahgeorgiou13]

he has really pretty eyes :)