How to Neutralize Mean Girls

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Rumors, gossip, exclusion. Mean girls have a lot of weapons in their repertoire -- here's how to combat all that nastiness.

To complete this How-To you will need:

Confidence
Friends
Courage
Restraint
Adult intervention

Step 1: No matter how intimidated you may feel on the inside, do your best to exude confidence on the outside. Standing up straight and maintaining eye contact will send the signal that you're not a doormat. Mean girls single out targets they deem weak, but often stay away from confident girls.

Step 2: When possible, travel in a group of friends. Mean girls tend to shy away from packs, instead focusing their attention on solo prey.

Tip: In need of friends? Sign up for extracurricular activities, or get a job after school where you can meet teens your age outside of school.

Step 3: Be nice and stay nice. If you're in a class or after-school activity with a mean girl, compliment what she's wearing or nonchalantly offer help with a math problem. If you can get one mean girl on your good side, the rest may fall in line.

Tip: Ask a parent or older sibling for advice. Almost everyone has had at least one experience with bullies.

Step 4: Mean girls thrive on reactions, so if you're not making any headway, go into "ignore mode" and pretend you're immune to everything they say or do. This will probably only work a few times, though. If the mean girls are really determined, ignoring them is not a long-term solution.

Step 5: Confront mean girls using the divide-and-conquer approach. Calmly talk to an influential girl one-on-one, and ask her an up-front question like, "Did I do something that made you mad?" Use "I" statements rather than "you" ones. A mean girl can easily deny anything you say about her, but she'll have a harder time arguing against your personal feelings.

Tip: Before your conversation, rehearse your replies, imagining how you'll firmly, but politely, stand your ground and stay confident no matter what.

Step 6: If the mean girls are relentless, causing you to become depressed or anxious, or threatening to get physical, involve your parents and the school faculty. Though it may not seem like it, popular kids don't actually run the school. Those who do run it can help put any mean girls in their place.

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[gab1971]

Where do I buy these.. friends?

[rainbowdash1337]

@VideoUploader8520 ummm...thats a bit harsh ... break her arms instead lol

[TheFallenArcher]

Step 1 kick there ass

Step 2 move

[TheCapitalLetter]

What if Im not a teen, dont have siblings, dont go to school and my parents are dead?

[ChrystinaAnswers]

1) too much eye contact and you get your ass kicked

2) not always true

3) you can be nice all you want but it doesnt change a thing

4) i did that and it just got worse

5) they are never alone

6) also not true

these are things i learnt throughout highschool

[slowshow111]

Step 1, join the US armed forces.

[Iheartcows123]

@gab1971 At wal mart of course.

[TheZhack123]

What if i'm a guy, is it the same?

[TheShineySmiley]

No this one girl thought i was quiet enough to push around me and my friends...

me and her went all out crazy loud we showed who was boss.

[ashelytis5]

get a BAT

DO U WANT IT I HAVE ONE LOL

[CPMackenzie]

No, no, no. It's called a bitch slap.

[brodles99]

did u know if u punch them right bard in the face youl get in trouble but youl have that warm feeling when then try to stay away from u xx