Advice on telling the parents

I get asked quite often about this and figured it was time to make a video about it.

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• deconvert
• king
• heathen
• atheist
• atheism
• religion
• christian
• skeptic

[mackles]

my question is: Why the fuck is it so necessary to tell your parents you're atheist? All these kids are so proud that they told their christian parents off about religion - what the hell is the point to make an actual statement? My disbelief in god is immovable, like my parents belief in god - so why start a huge conflict?

[KingHeathen]

@mackles I hope that you never have to worry about such a situation. But for many people, the religious pressure they get from the parents is overwhelming. They feel the need to let the parents know so that perhaps they will back off a bit. Then again, perhaps it's a simple matter of integrity for some when their parents ask them to "bow their heads" for prayer at dinner and they don't want to "go through the motions" to avoid a fight and prefer to have their opinions known.

[mackles]

@KingHeathen so its just too much to bow your lazy ass head at prayer for the parents who raised you? I moved out of my parents, but when I visit, I go to church with my mom - she has an idea that I don't believe in god, but it makes her happy that i go. Parents will figure it out on their own. All that announcing atheists to religious parents is going to do is alter their view of you and turn every day into an attempt bring you back because they can't fathom you're belief. Unnecessary.

[KingHeathen]

@mackles Lazy? It has nothing to do with lazy. And if you don't understand that then I see no point in discussing it with someone who can't hold a simple civil conversation with someone without taking weak pot shots at them. Get over yourself.

[DeadlyChinchilla]

Shoot, man... thats twisted stuff. Isn't it sad when things like this break apart families? It isn't worth it... except the 'fundies' as you call them think it is. Its a no win situation, there.

[MirageScience]

When I was 14 I told my mom strait up that I didn't believe in god. If she freaked then I would have been ok with her decision. Thankfully she didn't freak, but idk if she cares about me being an atheist or if she still thinks I'm on the fence seeing as I told her at a young age.

[mackles]

@KingHeathen And also, I've already worried about it years ago, and been through the painful transistion...and got over it. That was my biggest fear of what my parents would think, until I realized I never had to tell them lol

[Joflyer0211]

@KingHeathen Here, Here!

[KingHeathen]

@Joflyer0211 All I'll say is "Here's to turning 18!"

[Joflyer0211]

@KingHeathen Ai... Allow to explain a bit so I don't come off as a complete asshole. Well first off, I'm waiting till 18 'cause anytime before will mean me in absolute misery. Second, I don't deluge (?) into my personal life too much, but let me tell you this. I have scars from when I've been hit with a belt. If my mother had it her way, computers (One of the, like, 5-6 things I have to live for) wouldn't even exist. Not because she thinks their( She does though) But so I can't go on. Nuff said.

[KingHeathen]

@Joflyer0211 Wimpy? No...spiteful, Yes. I don't know your family or the problems you have with them. But I'd warn you not to deliberately burn any bridges that you don't have to.