Eating Disorders, the New Year, and No Scapegoats

It's a New Year, and therefore time for a fresh start.
That doesn't mean you will be a new person, with no problems and a clean slate. It just means that it's time to accept that you are the only person you can blame for who you are, what you are, and why you're here.
Your background did not give you an Eating Disorder.
Your parents did not give you an Eating Disorder.
Your school did not give you an Eating Disorder.
Your friends did not give you an Eating Disorder.
The random guy on the bus did not give you an Eating Disorder.
That crazy lady who plays the harmonica outside Starbucks did not give you an Eating Disorder.

Sure, all this things may have been contributing factors, but ultimately, you did this. You chose to starve or binge or purge or exercise until your lungs feel like they may explode out of your chest in a scene bloody enough to be in one of the 'Saw' movies.

As Fall Out Boy said, 'You can only blame your problems on the world for so long'.

As true a statement as any.

PS: As always, you can contact me via comments on this video, but personal message via youtube, or by email to drugstoreromeo@hotmail.com

Happy New Year, gorgeous guys and lovely lasses.

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[alicelostwonderland]

@raganmae Ah ha, well, Boots is my life. I was a christmas temp,. and they decided to keep me on, but only on twenty hours a week, so I work 5pm-9pm five days a week. I love the money, and I am a work-a-holic, but it's a little much for a student. I miss doing nothing, but I guess that's maturity. Maybe I'll use it to pay for singing lessons so I can get my band going!

[alicelostwonderland]

Ah ha, well, Boots is my life. I was a christmas temp,. and they decided to keep me on, but only on twenty hours a week, so I work 5pm-9pm five days a week. I love the money, and I am a work-a-holic, but it's a little much for a student. I miss doing nothing, but I guess that's maturity. Maybe I'll use it to pay for singing lessons so I can get my band going!

[Janestlllikessecrets]

I love so much that you are willing to speak the truth about taking responsibility for your actions, despite the factors that may have contributed to skewed thinking. Wow, this is fantastic honesty! I agree so much with what you're saying. With the exception of real trauma, I think the general public is relying too much on blame to see past their issues and move into being productive citezens.

[alicelostwonderland]

@Janestlllikessecrets This is the best and nicest comment I have ever received. Ever. You are an amazingly beautiful person, and thank you so much.

People have shunned or hated me before because I am honest to the point of offending people. But my policy is that i will say what I think, even if it hurts, because people will appreciate it in the long run.

This post is entirely true, and yet controversial.

[alicelostwonderland]

@Janestlllikessecrets cont. from last comment:

But you know what? I'm not going to pussy-foot about it to make other people feel good. I know eating disorders, hell, I've had one since I was twelve years old, and I am now twenty one. I know how sensitive a subject they are, and in how many different ways they manifest themselves, but I take back nothing.

You can never recover until you admit the truth, and the truth is that your eating disorder is your responsibility, and no one else's.

[alicelostwonderland]

@Janestlllikessecrets cont. from last comment... again:

I am happy to explain the theory further, but you don't need it.

I wish you peace, luck and a ridiculous amount of love, sweetheart xx

PS: Sorry this had to be split into three comments @Janestlllikessecrets. I ramble on more than YouTube likes :) If you want to talk more, message me at drugstoreromeo@hotmail.com, and we'll have a proper chat!

Love to you, my beauty.

[worldxxpeace]

This is honestly the truest thing I've heard in a long time. Personal responsibility can feel awful sometimes, but as much as it got us into this mess, it really is the key to getting out too. :)

[99bulimichabits]

you know what? you're fully right. i never even thought about that before, but you make seriously valid points. i've been bulimic since i was 12 and i always figured i was somewhat influenced by my mother(weight-freak) but i don't blame her for my own actions. so refreshing to hear an actual opinion about eating disorders. all i ever hear about them here are 'ew, gross. they're stupid' or 'jeez. those people have serious issues' and i am a girl that can rage =/

glad you're back xox

[Janestlllikessecrets]

<3

[waterbear900]

you are so right. It's never one person's fault- it's a lot of factors that make someone who they are

:)

xoxo

[alicelostwonderland]

@cleggie28 Thank you for you comment, babe. I fully intend to keep the posts going, as far as my environment allows me - it's difficult, as I have stressed, with five girls constantly knocking on the door, or being in close proximity, as they can listen in, so I cannot say what I would wish to. But I swear to you, I will try and post more frequently - at least once every two weeks.