Codependency

This is an interview on Codependency. The questions were submitted via email by a like minded group of individuals in recovery. I do not claim to be an "expert" on the topic, therefore the views and ideas expressed reflect my own journey, recovery, and understanding on the issue. For those of you who wish to know more (or would like a transcript of this interview), please feel free to contact me via youtube and leave your email. Recovery from anything is difficult, but each of us is worth it. Don't remain stuck in life.

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[adow2010]

If you are still active in your own codependency, how do you know you really love the person you're with and not just addicted to them?

[ravenclaw67]

@adow2010 That's a valid point. The bottom line is, if you're active in your addiction/codependency, you don't know for sure. Love is a verb & behavior. I was challenged once as to how did I know I loved my ex being that I was behaving codependently for years with her. The answer was that once I entered my recovery I gave her an additonal year of my life with very strict boundaries, including no sex, outtings, etc, & felt closest to her then. She admitted this had the opposite effect 4 her.

[TeenaK66]

You had me at the superman shirt! LOL. Seriously, very informative and good for you. I'm glad we reconnected in a positive way now. Don't let anyone take advantage of you ever again.

[ravenclaw67]

@TeenaK66 What can I say here re? I wish I had gotten help back in college during our time. All the wasted years can't be taken back. At least I won't be wasting any more.... I'm glad we reconnected as well.

[hersofterside]

I thought your piece here was very informative...and I have always found inspiration in things you say...Thank you for your insight and keep being strong...

[ravenclaw67]

@hersofterside I draw strength from those who support me and really care. Thanks for your kind words.

[ravenclaw67]

@glitrgurl2004 Happy to be of use. Things don't change, WE change. I am becoming increasingly whole and will be able to present that to someone who will be able to accept it.

[glitrgurl2004]

I am proud of you and all you've accomplished. I continue to learn from your shares. I think you're one of the most incredible people I know and I know you'll get a very special lady who loves you. Keep it up!

[ravenclaw67]

@Sweetlady882000 Thanks for the support. I know you didn't know better at the time. We're good now. I'm glad you found your way and that we can be healthy friends now.

[Sweetlady882000]

This was a little over my head. But you look good. I know you tried to rescue me and I'm sorry if I ever let you down. I didn't know what I had. But I love you always!