Kids & Gender Roles?

So Selena made a statment on Christmas and we got a lot of people asking us do we teach our kids gender roles???

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[GrrlzwillbeBoizATX]

Your lives are so much like ours that I seldom feel the need to comment more than "what he said." But after watching this, having a girly girl (15 and NEVER grew out of it) and big ol' snakes and snails boy, of our own, I have to ask ONE question. We just moved into a new house and I NEED to know where you got Daniel's mini blinds because as soon as our son sees them, he's gonna want them. ~Sam

[depfox]

@GrrlzwillbeBoizATX LOL well we love when you comment ;O) We got them at three day blinds. You can go online and have them special ordered.

[jjguy23]

I wanted to ask,

How did you guys work out the last name situation?

Do your children stay with their birth parent's last name or does he take yours?

Also, Who took whose last name when you guys got married?

Thanks.

[depfox]

@jjguy23 We have an ask a gay family video about this but ill give you the short answer we all have bryans last name Leffew

[revemupman]

Gender roles are vital and I don't think they should be abolished at all. I'm very liberal when it comes to finding what you like when your older but without gender roles men and women will be conflicted during growing up. Despite all the political babble of men and women being equal I obviously don't agree with this at all. If it was really true there wouldn't be girl and boy locker rooms, bathrooms, toys, etc.

[depfox]

@revemupman Most kids will follow traditional Gender roles.....But when there are kids that dont, they need to understand that they are just as good and loved. We dont need to make people feel shame for being different when it comes to something as dumb as clothes and toys. I firmly belive that a lot of parents care more about being embaresed by their kids then hurting them with thier own Homophobia.

[depfox]

@lilyfleur7 If Daniel wanted to wear a dress to school, I would first ask him if he understands that other kids at school will probably give him a hard time? If Danile said So. Then I would say ok son have a great day. When he came home we could talk about how his day went. I am pretty sure if he couldnt put up with the taunts & teasing he wouldnt wear the dress the next day. I think kids need to make these choices for themselfs.

[moffe12341]

Oh and btw, Star Wars is for everybody!

[moffe12341]

Honestly, I believe gender roles are appropriate! I'm not saying that we should condemn those who go outside of them, let them do as they please! But the fact is that having testosterone cause males to immediately be drawn to certain things, whether it be toys or sexuality, and the same for girls and estrogen! Its basic biology!

[GoddessOfCats]

Personally, I'm not for gender roles. People should be who they wish to be. They shoulden't hide who they are because society expects them to act a certain way. If a girl wants to be more like a boy, then let her. If a boy wants to be more like a girl, then let him.

I certainly don't fit the gender role as a woman. I hate make-up and pretty clothes. I love skull designs and zombies, plus I love rough housing and playing video games. Thats who I am and I'm proud of it!

[wolfcat87]

@wolfcat87 whatever he wants dresses, make-up, high heels and sticker earrings (neither of their ears are pierced) and we fuss at our daughter if she criticizes. He has longer curly blonde hair and even dressed completely in boys clothes over 90% of people assume he's a girl because he's so pretty. I also get a lot of looks and lectures for letting him do whatever and for not cutting his hair. But, whatever. lol

[wolfcat87]

@wolfcat87 that one dumb question opened up a lot of issues. Now my daughter was picking apart every little difference between her and everyone else from size to skin color to gender and she started telling her little brother that he couldn't do this and that because only girls could do it or he couldn't play with her because she was a girl! I am so upset that people need to force these things on little kids. My son loves doing what his big sis does (he's 3 now and she's 4.5) and we let him do..

[wolfcat87]

You know, I planned on not telling my kids about gender differences until they were about 5 and when my daughter was 3 we got her tested to see if she was ahead developmentally and one of the questions was, "Are you a boy or a girl?" My daughter's response was, "I'm Kitty." The lady kept asking her the question and then showed her some card and when my daughter didn't know the difference and was marked down a few points for not knowing. She still came out pretty far ahead of others her age, but.

[ilyLisy]

Is it me, or is the volume extremely low? I can't hear a thing D:

[Nerdicaful]

I would -like- to be the kind of parent that says there is no difference between men and women, especially now that the traditional gender roles are changing. But I -know- my child would suffer through some hard times growing up like that because there are so many parents and children that grew up with the traditional roles of gender taught to them. I don't want him or her to suffer and be bullied because of my teaching, but I don't want him/her to be brought up according to stereotypes, either.

[MrBornagainzombie]

@TheDesperateHodges Of course! and I certainly hope your right and she has a great life.

[TheDesperateHodges]

@MrBornagainzombie Plenty of girls have grown up with two fathers or a single father and have turned out perfectly fine. I'm sure there will be female influences in Selena's life and she'll have a wonderful life.