TCK Gets Real - Losing Your Friends Part I

TCK Gets Real is a personal vlog about life as a TCK ( Third Culture Kid ) . The third culture is the way to explain how someone feels when they are displaced from their home culture into a culture in which they feel they don't truly belong, but at the same time spend enough time away from their home culture so that they don't belong there anymore either, thus forming a third culture.
I hope to provide some insight into experiences that I've had related to being a TCK. I realize that experiences differ from person to person.
I would love to answer any questions you might have, feel free to send in a video response I'd love that. I would love to hear about your experiences concerning losing friends.

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[jenzatron]

I know exactly how you feel. TCK here too. Do you find that TCKs are different depending on being an only child or a child with siblings?

[soulofbass]

i find most everyone is different depending on whether they are an only child, first child, middle child and so on, TCKs definitely not exempt here, what do you think?

[MrBritishLove]

Bro, what do you like consider home right now for you ? And btw, i loveeeeeee the Nigja Turtles :-)

[soulofbass]

home is wherever i am, at least i try to make it so. ninja turtles rule!

[mkgurl90]

heeeey souldofbass. another tck here. so what was your parents career that you lived in thailand?

it's cool of you to post these videos. I can relate to just about everything u've said at some point or another in my life. I still deal with a lot of loss every now and then, and i definitely feel out of place sometimes, but I am at a great peace with who I am and why I am the way I am. I love that I'm a tck. I feel that in the long run, the blessings outweigh the negative. YOu know?

[soulofbass]

i think i do know and to answer your question my parents are missionaries. thanks for leaving a comment!

[Nyder]

Did you go to ISB? What years?

[meganmcdonald2006]

Thanks for this video! I really related - especially to what you said about how others view TCKs as 'aloof' - I am actually a warm demonstrative person but find it hard to trust of course...and am seen that way...it's difficult sometimes to realize that really great people just don't connect because of the way I sometimes appear.

[KatieFriday13]

*TCK hug*

I know the feeling, because that was my exact experience (minus the ninja turtles). I actually met one of my best friends because we both loved batman cartons :P

[mairabay]

hey man, very cool video! I'm a TCK too and I can feel yr pain. I hope to see on the next videos how you got through it all.

On losing friends...have you tried searching for them in Facebook,etc? I thought I had lost my best friend from Wales until we managed to write each other emails (back in the 90s) & it was really cool. Of course it's not the same thing & we're all grown up now anyway, but it's cool to have her on my FB and see what she's doing now and then.

again, cool video & take care!

[BigPrairieDude]

I have always wondered how much the feeling of "not acceptance" affected my relationships. I always seemed to keep on trying past the point where the majority of people would have moved on. Always trying for a second, third or fourth chance no matter how much time had passed. We do have a lot of similarity. Interesting.

[soulofbass2]

thanks for sharing a part of your story, i just finished watching your fairy tale video and couldnt help noticing some similarities in the themes between it and my last song in a day.

[soulofbass2]

congrats on surviving dalat!

[BigPrairieDude]

Came into this country in 1951. We are peas in a pod except then we had the beatings to suffer as an extra non acceptance. Wish I could tell you it gets better when you get older but I still feel a fish out of place. Now I have made my own niche inside. Have one best friend and am glad to have her even though we are 1700 miles apart. She also was a TCK from Chile. I was from Italy originally but when I went back in 2000 everything had changed so much I felt out of place there.

[mutu2]

tried to comment last week - but for some reason would not accept. I am also a fellow TCK - who survived Dalat!

[jenzatron]

I can see that. I am a middle child and have always felt quite detached from my family. Being a TCK definitely didn't help. I've been told I come off as quite aloof but that's because I feel quite awkward when I meet new people. I'm very friendly though, and learned to befriend people rather quickly when I felt the need to which.. isn't very often.