Dr Phil 3 of 5 "Gender confused kids"

Dr Phil 3 of 5 "Gender confused kids"

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[1214gaia]

Psychologist Jerome Kagan, whom Glenn Stanton cites, is a dinosaur. He did a lot of good work on infant development and child temperament, but does not address the newest neurological research on kids and gender identity (because he is retired). This whole area is still a question mark scientifically, but for sure, religion as absolutely nothing to do with it. Religion masquerading as science makes me want to vomit.

[ALCEREBRUS]

I'm happy to say as a muslim that Islam accepts transgender people

[rockbass]

@Maehedrose blah blah blah. it's a cult. take off your blinders. you don't need to be in a cult to do good things. also, real intelligence does not accept faith as the answer to anything.

[Maehedrose]

@ColdColdToronto Preaching to the choir there my friend.

[ColdColdToronto]

@Maehedrose That much I agree with-I always give this advice to my friends who have children who wonder what to do if their child "expresses" as the opposite sex-LISTEN to them. LEARN to know what to look for. If your boy plays with dolls, you shouldn't assume they have any problems, but if they say things like "I want to cut my penis off" that is a sign that something else is wrong. Above all, love them unconditionally so they will feel comfortable coming to you if they have problems with this.

[Maehedrose]

@ColdColdToronto (cont) suggesting that is always happening, but suggesting that it can occasionally be the case and a parent needs to have the tools available in order to talk to a child and feel them out - because leaping to assumptions in any direction is bad parenting.

[Maehedrose]

@ColdColdToronto And here is where families need to be educated in how to address this possibility, should it come up - parents need to know how to talk about it with children and what are actual signs that a child may be experiencing questions of gender or may have picked up the question from other children at school. Because, it is a very real fact that young children are extremely impressionable and can be convinced of things in the short term without understanding. Realizing I am NOT

[ColdColdToronto]

But, again, it's not about interests, it's not about liking pink. I was a tomboy-a tomboy who was biologically male. I had almost no interest in girl things, but I still knew I WAS a girl, as tomboys know that they are still girls and don't have a problem with that, even if their behaviors go against that. You're right that no two people have the same experience, I'm just telling you that there ARE people who legitimately are born with the internal wiring of one sex and the body of the other.

[Maehedrose]

@ColdColdToronto But see, here's where we're going to come into conflict, because no two people are going to have the same experience and deal with it the same way. I dealt with gender issues much of my life and can vividly recall my father telling me how I was not allowed to like pink because only girls liked pink. That didn't mean a bolt of lightning instantly fell from the heavens and bestowed some enlightenment upon me.

[ColdColdToronto]

@Maehedrose The difference is that most children have identities that MATCH their bodies, so they never give it a second thought, it never becomes a conflict, so gender identity is really something that most people are not even really aware of. But when there IS a conflict, believe me, you know.

[ColdColdToronto]

@Maehedrose Speaking from MY experience, I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt that young children DO know. I was one of those children, and I have met many, many others who had the same experience.

[Maehedrose]

@ColdColdToronto What we really need to be doing, and what shows like this attempt to do but - saddly - can only scratch the surface of in their timeslot, is educate parents on how to respond this these kinds of scenarios. What we don't want, however, is parents who are so frightened of the subject matter that they simply step away and refuse to touch it at all, leaving their child to flounder about in uncertainty, grasping at anything they can lay their hands on.