BPD Triggers are Gateways To Recovery

Author, BPD and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari, discusses the central role that triggers play in not only Borderline Personality Disorder, but also in recovery. Triggers produce intense emotional dysregulation in those with BPD that take them partially out of the here and now and unfold for them psychologically unresolved abandonment trauma from the past superimposed upon the reality of what is actually unfolding in fully in the here and now. This leads to fragmented experience. Experience that needs to better understood by those with BPD and by their loved ones.

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Education

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• bpd triggers
• aj mahari
• bpd recovery
• abandonment in bpd
• emotional dysregulation
• bpd coach
• life coach

[L4dyL4z4ruS]

Most of the time I'm afraid to tell people that I have BPD because I'm worried they'll find out these inherent weaknesses and use them against me.

Thanks for speaking to us.  I can't do much speaking.

[ajmahari]

Many people with BPD fear telling others due to stigma and the fear you have expressed here too. I don't think that most people would use your "inherent weaknesses" - your vulnerability against you. Relating with others is often a source of many triggers. In many ways you need to experience those triggers, learn more about them and how to cope with them to be able to get well.

Thanks for sharing your comments and you are welcome :)

[weaverofspirit]

Thanks so much for this very educational video A.J. on a very important subject for all of us with BPD for sure. I just went and purchased your audio and so far after hearing only 10 minutes of it I wanted to share with you that you have helped me to finally get something that up til now was eluding me. Your audio is so revealing, inspirational, and motivating too. I am so grateful for all you do!

[ajmahari]

Hi there,

Thanks so much for your kind words. I'm glad you found something in what I said helpful. Take care.

[rosecityremona]

So....ajmahari, I have a question. I've been looking at tons of vids etc on my bpd looking for answers. My situation is that I am a bpd person who is having a relationship with another bpd. I am flummoxed. It's been, as you might imagine, kind of chaotic. We've managed to work out a lot of things though but I am still unsure if this is even possible. What's your take on the idea generally speaking, of course?

[13abbitt]

I've had some DBT; I'm familiar with M. Linehan's Manual. But I'm not really clear about her chart concerning Triggers: very confusing. I understand that events can be interpreted - precursors can be coded messages and disasters can be wake-up calls. But when I stop acting out, and I am fairly quiet, and the problem of being overwhelmed presists: I'm not sure that psychic pain cannot kill you.

[smmeegal]

So much to attempt to take on board but so helpful, many thanks.

[lzftiz]

So much of this is valuable, but try and keep the sales pitches to a minimum.

[rsiegenbe]

I don't know what im gonna do, my emotionalm dysregulation is starting to take its toll on my partners patience, he is at a loss on what to do or what to say to me when I have an episode. I'm afraid he is gonna finish with me because im hard to deal with sometimes. And the only thing that comforts me when im feeling this low is when my partner is there for me, its a vicious circle.

[gabsylv]

very good thx

[cheatingmenn]

i am in a relationship with someone like this and it has taken a toll on my health dealing with mr. right

[MrOntheborder]

I agree. With my "peeps" i am open about it. Also, have learned how to control some triggers, by "Trying anything once"... and leave when I am ready,

So far, I have no stigma. A nickname from my besty, But he copes as well... he is allowed lol.