I made five videos private...and upon introspection, this is how I should have done it the first time. "Life imitates art." Accordingly, your life is your art form. It is lived once, and is on stage for display. It has pain and suffering, yet your only option is to learn at every twist and turn. Then and only then can you consciously choose it and make it full, instead of allowing others to live and choose it for you. Make your lives full, friends, and let "them" know: it is not up for discussion, debate, nor criticism. Make it YOURS not OURS, for it is the one thing over which you have full ownership. END OF STORY. Enjoy.