"Gay?! I can't be. I'm just not the type."

Sometimes coming to terms with our own sexuality is the hardest part. We don't all fit into boxes. Imagining a sexual scale, where one end is 100% gay and the other is 100% straight, most people fall somewhere in between...

For a good gay chat room, take a look at http://www.realjock.com
The site is free to join, and you can chat away with other gay guys while keeping your pants on! :-)

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[BananaSandwich1]

i dunno how to meet gays,I dont really like clubs as they are too loud lol and I'd just rather hav a 1 on 1 conversation with some1, and online is just generally perverts who want u to be their slave or wotever. . . .plus I dont even know if I am gay : S

[RobNorthampton]

@BananaSandwich1 Whichever gender turns you on is usually a good indication. If it's either, you could be bisexual. One good site I found recently is RealJock.com if you just want to chat with other guys. Their blurb reads: "The original RealJock Chat. Video/audio available for verified members only. Keep your pants on, fellas. Video chatting is allowed in RealJock Chat, but no nudity or sex acts allowed. This is a great place to chat with other gay guys." And it's free to join too!

Good luck!

[RobNorthampton]

(Whilst sex is great with the right person, not everyone is into sex for the sake of it. Choose wisely in a chatroom and it's possible to find someone genuine. I did, and he's still with me 10 years on :-) )

[ninjascroll6789]

HOW OLD ARE YOU?

[RobNorthampton]

@ninjascroll6789 I'm as old as my hair and a little older than my teeth.

[parkourDrew4745619]

Why aren't you my dad! ^.^

[RobNorthampton]

@parkourDrew4745619 LOL Thanks. I'll take that as a compliment. I'm certainly OLD enough to be a dad. Probably a grandad too, but I try not to think about that! I'm still a big kid myself at heart. :-)

[0mniaV1nc1t]

Good to see you back Rob :)

[bearcub410]

thank you rob as always your video clips are a pleasure to watch . very informative and well thought out !!!! being gay is just one aspect of my life , but a very important part !!!!! to your own self be true !!!!! i just wish when i was 18 i could have gotten this type of advice from other gay men !!!! thank you very much

[stir09]

Magnum P.I. idol Thom Selleck is that you ? idol .. ;-)

[BananaSandwich1]

get a backbone is my advice if anyone hates gays, 1st try to explain things to them and change their stone age opinions and if that doesnt work, fuck em, reject them they are scum and should be dead to you until they change their minds, i dont give a fuck if people dont like me for it, they can suck my dick [so to speak lol]

[RobNorthampton]

@truvelocity You could be right, or it could just be that they go unnoticed. I am gay, but unless the situation arises where I need to tell someone, being gay is not the first thing I tell new people when I am introduced to them. That is not to say that I am hiding the fact - it just sometimes doesn't come up.

[truvelocity]

He's normal, but lives in a society where there is this stereotype of what is gay and people are in fear of discrimination. Positive gay models hide that they are gay.

[phantomsuccour]

@RobNorthampton Thank you very much :-)

[RobNorthampton]

@phantomsuccour As with any relationship, it's all about the give and take. Don't let silly arguments turn into major rows, share the chores as well as the joys, and above all, communicate! If something is niggling you, bring it into the open. If you can discuss anything and everything with your partner - both the positives and the negatives, you'll soon find it's plain sailing all the way. I wish you both the best of luck! :-)

[phantomsuccour]

@RobNorthampton Thank you, I'm actually with someone who is 29 years older than me, we have been together for 2 months now and I love him. He's really kind and considerate, to mention but a few. I think I just love how mature and certain of himself he seems. It's funny because even 6 months ago if you asked me if I would date anyone who was even 10 years older than me, I would have said no!! But I would have missed out on meeting this great man. 9 years!!! wow!! That is amazing! Any advice?

[RobNorthampton]

@phantomsuccour And I'm sure that men in their 40s and 50s are all over you like a rash! :-D

Purely by chance, my bf for the last nine years is 24 years my junior, proving that age is not the key issue, but rather the two people involved in a relationship. I wish you well, and hope you find honest guys who won't jerk you around just because you are younger.

[phantomsuccour]

I'm 21 and I'm attracted tomuscular men in their 40's and 50's :-)

[RobNorthampton]

@SteeveeStrange Good idea, Steve! My fave is the cute one who says, "Your place or mine?" :-D x

[RobNorthampton]

@bearcub410 Sorry I didn't reply before now. I must have missed the email. Thanks very much for your continued support! :-) x

[SteeveeStrange]

I'm gonna order a rugby shirt from sportsdirect and then seduce the delivery man, but only if he looks butch. lol

The Kooga Harlequins is my fave!! ;-)

[RobNorthampton]

I like your webface btw. Good likeness :-)

[RobNorthampton]

@TheLunarmonkey Thanks very much! The lad I speak of in this video is from the UK, so as much as we like to think that we have become a more accepting society in this country (certainly more than America with its religious obsession), there is still an undercurrent of homophobia that manages to seep into the minds of kids growing up with differing sexualities. It kindles within some of them a self-hatred that is as life-sapping as any outward homophobic comments. We progress, but oh so slowly.

[TheLunarmonkey]

well done Rob for making these vids, it good for young gay people or even older gay people to to hear a man like yourself tell your story and giving advise, im sure it a real help for their internal struggle to allow themselves to be themselves

its a shame it couldnt be organized for ALL gay people to come out on the same day, that way straight people would find themselve surrounded by gays and just have to get used to it.

Good man

[RobNorthampton]

@fehquig It can certainly sometimes feel like finding your way through a maze, Andy. There can be a lot of dead ends before we find the right route. :-)

[RobNorthampton]

@WyldeCards @WyldeCards Thanks very much, Steve. Society may slowly be getting better in its acceptance, but individual families can still sometimes make it tough for youngsters to come out. Then if they have an ounce of bisexuality thrown in too, it can be very confusing for them.

I've heard of the Second Coming, but never the Second Coming Out. Would you have to be gayer than the first time? :-D