Domestic Violence: Why Doesn't She Just Leave?

http://www.whynotleave.com Informative video about why victims of domestic abuse stay in violent relationships. Discover what the media doesn't tell you about intimate partner violence and the suffering women and children experience daily.

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• domestic
• violence
• abuse
• against
• women
• child

[thekenniewitch]

I had no understanding of why women stayed with an abuser...until I became one of them. Would you leave if he threatened to kill all of your family members? Would you leave if he pointed a loaded handgun to your head and was fully planning on killing you if you persisted in leaving? Only someone involved in this type of situation is going to understand what it is like to stay and the fear that you live with every day. Many, many women are killed when trying to leave.

[SuperNewhorizon]

you got to put fear in these men, show them ur not scared and get help fast , i had a friend whos mother was abused by her boyfriend , you know what she did, she got all of her brothers and cousins and uncles together and they beat the living shit out of him, we never ever seen his punk ass again,

[GiantPetRat]

What really boggles my mind is when children are allowed stay with people who are CLEARLY unstable, who have STRONG histories of being abusive or unlawful. Certainly, there are cases where it can be difficult to decide whether the guardian is safe. But when it's that cut and dry, how is it the government gives them ANYthing? Why do children get put with foster parents who are clearly unfit to care for kids?

[thekenniewitch]

@evelsteev @evelsteev Abusers fall into 2 different categories. Category one is the ones who will be the most likely to kill you when you attempt to leave but they often don't keep after you for long. The category 2 people will stalk you and will sometimes stalk you for 20 or more years. They will cross state lines, borders, etc. to get you. They can be jailed for years and continue stalking you for years.

[thekenniewitch]

@evelsteev I never said that you, or anyone else, should murder anyone.

[evelsteev]

@thekenniewitch you could have gone on, anyways. This happens now and again. But murdering people is not the solution.

[thekenniewitch]

@evelsteev The only real safe place was the mental ward at the local hospital. But they only keep you 48 hours. So I went to another hospital and that gave me enough time to mentally be clear enough on what I would do. I moved to rural Kansas and I thought that I saw him there so I went to Rome, New York. He was killed in a car crash on the interstate 81. I was able to go on with my life.

[evelsteev]

@thekenniewitch then film him coming at you, and take it to court, in lieu of his restraining order. I'd then get a lawyer. He can't do this forever.

[thekenniewitch]

@evelsteev I did all of that and when I tazed him he was back up in no time and used it on me. He trapped me in a plexiglass bus shelter and he drove his vehicle up on the sidewalk totally blocking my exit. There was no where to go except in his vehicle. No people around who wanted to get involved. Same as the time that he dragged me out of a bar screaming and fighting. No one helped. I went to a shelter and it took him 3 days to track me down (private investigator.)

[evelsteev]

@thekenniewitch Inform everyone around you, to get in on it. Learn self defense, get a taser, or get a gun, if you have to. Be proactive. Don't just sit there and take it, especially when there's kids involved.