Help for Narcissism - Emotional abuse - Website Intro

introduction to Kim and Steve's site at
http://www.narcissismcured.com/narcissism.html

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Education

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• narcissism
• emotional_abuse
• relationship_advice
• narcissism_cured
• emotional_intelligence
• self-help
• marriage

[relentlessrabbit]

it is physically impossible to cure narcism, theres no remedie or antibiotic that over night transforms them into a wonderful careing person. It is a personality disorder that will not go away.

[kimandSteveCooper]

@relentlessrabbit we do our very best to help build skills to help others deal with the prblematic behaviour caused by narcissism, especially with couples and families. Although narcissism is not a disease, and is therefore unable to technically have a cure, we believe that a program of thoughtful approaches to the conflict and a strategy for recovery can easily be learned by anyone. That in a sense is our cure for narcissism. Thanks for commenting, sorry it took so long to respond. Steve Cooper

[kimandSteveCooper]

I cannot post URL's here but if you copy and paste the whole phrase "narcissismcured narcissistic personality disorder" into search you should see the right page listed. You can buy it full price on that page or if you subscribe it will only

be $9.95.

[gorillatwist]

thanks for your help. I know you are trying to help and you have. I guess it is just a very hard thing to want to have a parent or even a sibling act like a parent or a sibling as in showing they care about the other person without it being about them. After a while a person in a narcessistic family gets tierd of playing the game with them. Maybe it is easier said that Narcessist are unable to love others. Really.

[kimandSteveCooper]

@gorillatwist - They are too busy defending their own vulnerability to think about other people. Hopefully in time they can come to feel more secure and that defense can come down. It is not an easy road but the steps that helped Steve and I are laid out in Back From the Looking Glass. It is only $9.95 now when you subscribe to our site at narcissismcureddotcom. Hang in there!

[gorillatwist]

You guys have to realize something. People that grew up in Narrcessistic families do not know what healthy IS, they only know what is NOT healthy. In other words healthy does not feel like "family". People want to connect with those that make them feel like family-- Do you know what this means? To tell someone like me that they can learn what a healthy family is by becoming more self serviing is not really the answer.--that is Narcessism... I have had to do it all for myself my whole life?

[kimandSteveCooper]

@gorillatwist - Self serving is not the same as emotionally secure within yourself. What you say about not knowing what is healthy is spot on. That is why you cannot expect someone who is narcissistic to be able to just stop what they are doing and get better all by themselves. They need guidance and small challenges once their pride has come down. We have something called the gap finder that identifies what is needed and choosing good family role models for learning better behavior is vital.

[joanofarcxxi]

I am surprised no one commented yet, so I will. narcissism is very difficult to treat, and most narcissists are too abusive and cruel for their partners to survive in the relationship with their health and sanity intact. their problem is deep seated with roots in their infancy, and I would not advise anyone to try and "love" them into change - it just doesn't work because their basic problem is they do NOT know what love is, and therefore can not reciprocate to your sacrifice.

[AcaiBunch]

I've given up on a relationship with my mother. I've spent most of my life trying to help her, but it's never changed...All I can do is avoid her as much as possible.

[gorillatwist]

I wish you had an easy hookup to buy your book-- confused about where?? to buy the book?? behind the looking glass--jane

[kimandSteveCooper]

@gorillatwist - it is very hard to have our needs met by anyone else until we learn to care for ourselves physically emotionally and spiritually. Hang in there (-:

Kim

[gorillatwist]

I grew up in a family where my emotional and spiritual needs were not met. My needed were denyed as even existing or being necessary. I have always known something was wrong, as young as 2 and 3 years old, but did not know how to identify it other than suffering. I suffered trememndously. I spent years trying to give my family chances to love me, I blamed myself and all of my relationahips reflected this. My family blamed me. I have accepted this- I am damaged, broken, and I always will be.