Coming Out - To the Queer Community

In this video, Jen & I discuss some of the things we faced and pressures we dealt with right after coming out. Also, we would really love to hear about some of the things that you went through...so leave us a comment or video response :)

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[areyouokayy]

I need help and any help would be great, I kindof am actracted to guys and I am a guy but I don't think I'm bi , it's hard to explain but Im only a freshman in hs. And I don't know what to do like I'll see a guy and be like he looks hot or something, I don't know what to do and my family would never treat me the same if I told them please help!

[QueerFAQtor]

@areyouokayy so i got your message on my video and wanted to respond. I know that what you are feeling is really strange, but the advice that i offer is to not be afraid of what you are feeling. it is totally normal! We are all sexual being and while we are hitting hormonal stages, our bodies start to react in sometimes strange ways. 

[QueerFAQtor]

@areyouokayy I would encourage you to explore your feelings and then assess how it feels. There are plenty of guys that i know that have had feelings for other men, acted on those feelings and then realized that they were in fact straight. I also know a lot of guys that did not realize they had feelings for men until much later in life. I suppose what I am trying to say is, don't get to caught up in trying to label yourself. So many people are eager to say they are gay, straight, bi, ...

[QueerFAQtor]

@areyouokayy

However, my personal opinion is that there are sooo many grey areas between those categories. So don't feel like you need to label yourself as one of those things. You may be a straight identified male that occasionally enjoys men. That doesn't mean you are gay or even bi. So yeah...look up the Kinsey scale. it will help you get a better idea of what i'm talking about :)

Hope this helps! And you have any other questions, feel free ask :)

~chris

[SlamTheLabel]

I'm 17 and still haven't came out. I go to the lgbt community center and everybody else has already came out. It's so freaking hard to come out.

[Whiskygirl101]

wish i could do it and come out...

[whosyodaddyyy]

The guy with the glasses in the video makes some good points

[CybershulDotCom]

You ladies are funny... in a good way...! :-)

[abbypeoplehands]

I haven't came out to moat yet. I'm actually wanting to grow my hair out to my shoulders before I do because I don't want people to find me stereotypical, and I miss long hair. Short hair is nice too, but I just want to see what it's like again.

[ooblaee]

i hope this doesn't get lost in a sea of previous comments but i want to say THANK YOU. i have had so many gender queer issues floating around inside me for so long, and i am just recently starting to come to term with them. it's just really comforting to hear frank discussion about it, and thank you for sharing your personal stories, it means a lot to me and i'm sure it must mean a lot to others in the community as well.

<3

[RainbowSpiceGirl]

I can relate to this video cause Im a Lesbian but all my friends look at me and say "No your not you look straight." and I live in a small town with like maybe 10 LBGTQ people including me so it sucks.

[Chelsea4966]

I am kinda unsure what to do. I am grateful to have found your video about coming out, and the thing is, I am 30 and have just (within the past month) realized that I'm pretty sure I'm Bi-sexual. I know I'm a bit old to be having this realization, and that is pretty upsetting for me. I want to say that (without going on and on) I am only now at a point in my life where I can start to find myself. I told somebody I work with (who is gay) that I'm bi, but that's all.. I don't know what to do next.