TTC #5 - my heart hurts.........

I need advice and some guidance how to deal with my feelings right now.

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• pcos
• pregnancy
• infertility

[ssvblhn]

If somebody knows exactly how you feel, that is me! I have been trying to get pregnant for 3 long years, my husband has the problem and he needs to fix it but he is always postponing it. You have no idea how much i've cried and suffered. This is the worst that i ever went through. I understand you, but you are not alone!

[SARAH25PCOS]

Sweet heart just know that this little community we've got here on YT is a lifesaver for me. If you need a person to help make sense of what you're feeling - I'm here for you. I thank you that you have opened up and let me know what you and your Husband are going through.

You'll get through this, just like me...*sigh* We will be Mommies!!!

Love, Hugs and Baby Dust to you!

Sarah

[thebubblelush]

I'm shocked that your husband made a point to tell you about the pregnancy of a woman that you don't know.

Many of us have had to deal with a sister or family member falling pregnant during our journey and it's not easy.

However, instead of focusing on the fact that she's pregnant, I'd suggest that you take this opportunity to discuss how you're feeling with your husband because he should be SUPPORTING you, not causing you unnecessary hurt.

Trust it'll happen for you in it's own time.

[SARAH25PCOS]

I don't think he even had any idea how it would have affected me when he told me. He was so excited that there would be a new work position opening in 6 months (due to Monica's leave) that he sort of had blinders on.

He was so sorry after I told him that it made me so...hurt, broken, sad, angry, mad and jealous.

His name is also Chris (just like your Hubby) - and he's such a great man :-)...his excitement got the best of his judgment :-\

How long have you and your Husband been trying?

[blessing0602]

I know that it is hard to see someone else get something that u yourself are struggling to get, but what I realized is that another person's happiness really shouldnt cause u sadness. i know it is easier said than done, but I do believe in energy, i believe that if u send positive energy and celebrate with those that are celebrating, then one day u will have people to celebrate with u. It is a difficult situation, but sometimes we have to dig deep beyond our own pain and be happy 4 others. :-)

[SARAH25PCOS]

This really...really...REALLY helped me - thank you so much for your words :*)

[MRSnickyMRsicario]

i know how u feel i been trying to get pregnant for almost a year,, my cousin just had a baby but she been prenant so many times and had 1 miss but she had abortions for 5 years sense she was 15 she got pregnant alot but had a abortion she got with a new boyfriend and in 2 months they was preg.. im married and been with him for 3 years and we been trying it hurts and im tired

[TheEsotericVoice]

I'm truly sorry for the hurt you're experiencing good sis... It's natural. Wanting to bare and nurture a child is a legitimate desire, and I hope you know you're a sacred, beautiful, essential person no matter what. I'll pray that you able to cope with your emotions right now and have a baby, it surely can happen in time! :D

[TurtleButterfly]

sorry for the spam lol. how i deal with it is have a good old fashioned cry, and cry alot i do. a good old hug from your DP/DH helps alot too! and just to know there are ladies out there going through the same emotions. what your feeling is normal. it was nice when i found that out for myself i felt like such a horrible person but your feelings are NORMAL! noone knows what your feeling unless they are in your shoes infertility hurts more than words can ever express.

[TurtleButterfly]

Keep up the fight! never give up.

[TurtleButterfly]

i've been trying naturally and unaided for almost 7 years. we've been seeing a fertility doctor having scans and tests and what not done for a little over 8 months. we have just finished our 2nd round of clomid and have 6 more days to go on our 2 week wait. i know how miserable you are. i cant even look at a pregnant lady sometimes or a baby i just feel anger, envy, guilt, hatred, jealousy and everything else. these feelings are normal hun! all my love! XOX

[ellonysman]

Can you message me. Im sad because my daughter is going thru this now after trying everything, her husbands sperm is just a low counter...maybe you can share something with her, cause I dont know how they are going to get thru it..theyre life seems black...the same feelings...others get pregnant, even if theyre the worst parent type on earth...nobody knows how you feel unless you are "there".

[daniellebourey]

HONEY! dnt cry,

i completely understand the emotional blah blah, and feeling of hatred (well thats kinda a strong word) or upset over anothers happiness when we want want there happiness or what they have.

at times i even lashed out my sister because i was so upset and just unhappy with myself and distraught with my life and i wnted her happy life and even her beauty, i just felt so ugly, as silly as that sounds but i did.

i cant thank you enough for this channel, were here to help you too!

[rjs010]

I heard this saying not long ago.

I have PCOS, but PCOS DOES NOT have me! take this under your wing. People can get pregnant with pcos. I kow alot of people who have gotten pregnant with pcos! It does take time but you WILL get pregnant. I have been trying for 2 years. just about to go on meds. I have seen alot of people who are pregnant and it does hurt, but you have to stay positive and think i do have pcos but pcos does not have me. You will get pregnant positive thinking always works.

[Kneviah]

I'm glad you found fertiltiy friends. I was having many of the same feelings and chatting wtih the girls there has really helped me.

fx for you and me. xo

[DawnMarie81]

I totally know how you feel. We have been TTC for a year now, and it seems like almost every week someone I know is telling me they are pregnant. I really want to be happy for them, and deep down I am, but hearing it is sooo hard, and I just cry and cry sometimes. Then realize how happy I would be if it were me, and that they must be feeling that happiness so that helps me feel happy for them again and hope they will one day feel that happy for me when/if I ever get pregnant.

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