Victims Become Narcissists: Contagious Narcissism

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Some people adopt the role of a professional victim. In doing so, they become self-centred, devoid of empathy, abusive, and exploitative. In other words, they become narcissists. The role of "professional victims" - people whose existence and very identity rests solely and entirely on their victimhood - is well researched in victimology. It doesn't make for a nice reading. These victim "pros" are often more cruel, vengeful, vitriolic, lacking in compassion and violent than their abusers. They make a career of it. They identify with this role to the exclusion of all else. It is a danger to be avoided. And this is precisely what I call "Narcissistic Contagion" or "Narcissism by Proxy". (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with 12 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)

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[MimiZ914]

After watching lots of videos on this subject, I AM convinced that our society conditions people to be narcissist on every level. From the punks who are constantly on their I-phones, to reality TV/ to Facebook, (Narcissist's golden platform.) Everybody is a nobody unless you readily and actively engage in some narcissist behavior. It makes me sick to see how our society has evolved over the past 20 years - to this pathetic and dark condition that eats like a rapid psychological cancer.

[spaceagedavid]

I met a young women Julie at the Uniersity of Maine who told me stories about how she was abused by her x boyfriend, but then found out that she often lies about men she doesn't like. She even lied about me leaving an "angry" letter on her car (that said that she parked her car all wrong or something like that). She then told everyone in our dorm that I left that mean note and turned people against me. This was after I told her alcoholic friends to "please quiet down" so she wanted revenge.

[medini2]

misery loves company.

[MimiZ914]

As if life was complicated enough as it was - then you add this.

[MimiZ914]

Narcs are organically insecure people. They can't live their life from a heart centered platform. The Buddhist have a saying: "If you want to be happy get rid of your ego." THe time has come for the masses to get rid of their egos (ha ha). If not, then life's experiences will shake them down to a core to that which is basic & simple, tear/drama & angst filled. You can surrender your ego at anytime. Watch what happens.

[MikaShelley99]

@MimiZ914 nice

[GeminiDream65]

So this being said, it is NOT the fault of the victim....he or she became that way because of someone elses bad behaviors and therefore needs appropriate help in recovering and regaining their self esteem and confidence back.....when a cycle becomes this deep, sometimes t hey even have to relearn how to become themselves again.....and I blame a lot on family and friends and co-workers, etc., cause sadly they dont want to get involved

[Ilove2massage]

Some get stuck in that anger phase and it can show up in different ways. Sometimes they do to others what the N did to them, so they feel empowered. It is as if they are making you the scapegoat for what the N did to them.

[Ilove2massage]

The N in my life has a narcissistic parent. One night I had a dream that I seen a grown man abusing a child, a few seconds later this grown man was a child being abused. I immediatley thought about the N in my life, his N mother, my chidren and myself. I catch myself when I see contagious behavior in myself. A phase of recovery is anger. I did not understand what or why it happended. Why I stayed so long. Resentment turned into anger. It is like a volcano that allows you to release.

[BigFellaMarkus]

yes, this is exactly what my ex gf was like 

[MirHafez]

I think it might apply more to children of narcissists. If you have kids with this person, look out for their future, they might pick some of the N up.