How do parents cope when a child Comes Out?

It can be a huge shock or an affirmation of what you already suspected. Either way, what next?
I apologise. Because I forgot to add the web addresses on the video, here they are:
http://www.pflag.org/ (in the U.S.)
http://www.fflag.org.uk/ (in the U.K)
This is a re-edited version of the first video I placed with this title. The message is the same, but hopefully with clearer sound.

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• Parents
• Gay
• Children
• Coming_Out

[hanksnow82]

If you have a son and he tells you he is gay the best thing is to take him to a strip bar and show him some nice tits good pussy . Give the dancer a few bucks so she will let the kid sniff that poon and explain this is good . Next take the kid into the mens washroom and have him smell the toilet and explain that it is bad .

[RobNorthampton]

@hanksnow82 Good plan. And also if your son grows taller than you and makes you feel insecure, just hack his legs off at the knees and let him walk around on the stumps. That'd show 'im.

[bobby472]

that was a very good vid. thank you for making it. when i came out to my parents(not by choice, i ended up in the hospital) my mom said she knew i was gay for along time. so she was fine with it, my dad on the other hand wasnt at first. he took a few days to finaly start talking to me. but as you said "if we come out willingly it bring us closer together". iagree with that, but i didnt want to come out. ive been out for over a year now and im still in denile. but things like this do help. TY

[RobNorthampton]

Thanks Kevin! I like the way you have been stirring up the theists on your channel. I think it takes everyone different lengths of time to truly accept themselves for what they are, but like it or not, we're stuck with it :-)

At your age, I came out and lost a lot of 'friends', but then realised that I really hadn't lost anything. The people who mattered stuck around, and having my parents support me was the best I could hope for...

[RobNorthampton]

After a period of clubbing and dating, I found a guy with whom I spent 21 years in a monogamous relationship. That went sour, but I'm now happy with Piers who has stuck by me for the last 7 years and counting. If you haven't already found that special someone, I hope it happens for you soon. I can't imagine that you will have much trouble attracting them with your good looks. My best wishes go with you for a long and happy life! - Rob

[goodstreaker33]

Hey Rob, just thought id give u an update on how things have gone since. All my close friends now and theyre all fine about it. I also told my parents and although my dad reacted angrily and my mam grieved for the first few weeks, theyve accepted it, even if they dont talk about it. So tanks again, I owe a great deal to you and your videos

[RobNorthampton]

Hi Chris! Thanks for the message, and I'm so pleased that things are working out for you! You deserve a good slap on the back, mate! I'm betting that although you managed to come through the roughest part, that you now feel a lot better about yourself. It's a good boost to one's self-esteem to know that you are still loved just for being you, and no longer have to dodge those 'awkward' questions! Great news! :-) x

[Arneneithel]

oh, sure, thanks for the introduction to fachism. i might have actually stayed in the closet and got really depressed if you had posted that a little while ago. as it is, i have already come out to my parents, and as it turns out, they aren't neo-nazis like you. but thanks anyway.

[bobby472]

but see that another thing for me. the city im living in isnt very pro gay. even online i havent found any other gay guys here. i think that is another reason why im still in denile. my mom wants me to move back home, that way i can get out in the gay scene and make some friends. ones that i would feel comfortable around. i have been giving it alot of thought. i'll talk some more with my mom about it. Thanks, i hope you and Piers have a long and happy relationship together.

[goodstreaker33]

Thanks again. Once more you've been loads of help

[RobNorthampton]

There are lots of professional sports people who are forging the way forward regarding homophobia in sport, and times are changing, albeit slowly. Take a look at gaygames . com and see the links to worldwide gay sports news and blogs. Good luck!