Coming Out (to parents) Doesn't Mean You Stop Being You

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Oajb2BIoU4

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[DanieljDixon]

Waiting at stop lights never appealed to me either, and if it wasn't for those damn camera's I would continue to run them.

You seem like a nice enough guy, I am not trying to harass you...just commenting, so Enjoy & Take Care BBR

[mybigbearron]

The comments are well taken, but the logic you (and others) seem to be using (and promoting) simply doesn't add up to a flawless universal moral imperative.

[DanieljDixon]

Warm sentiments for sure, but I must comment on this:

"once you come out there's no turning back"? Lets say that you knew for sure that one day your balls where going to get slowly pressed in a clamp through the course of a day. Could you then turn back? I think so...I would start thinking pussy right on the spot. Sure we all sin...but we all have the ability to overcome it.

[mybigbearron]

Obviously, I disagree with each premise upon which, as I have gathered from your comments, you have based each of your argument/s. For starters I'll simply assert that I don't want to "turn back," heterosexuality has NEVER appealed to me, "sin" is an excuse of convenient judgment, and the crucial object of "overcoming" is not "homosexuality." Selah!

[whistonlass]

This video was a joy to listen to....thank you for the way you have encouraged with such wisdom. Jacquie (mom to a much-loved gay son who came out to us 3 years ago)

[mybigbearron]

It was my pleasure! I'm sure you've much to be proud of. Your son can be proud of you too.

[rextrek]

My WW2 generation parents NEVER gave me any problems with "coming out"...I have 3 bro, 4 sisters, a gay sister too, and my parents Loved us all equally. My mom died this past Feb.and luckily I got to tell her a month or so before she died "thanking her & my dad for excepting me for who I am"..my mom said "We've always loved & excepted you"...leaves me with some peace...and Im 47.

[baddave62]

Great advice! I am in your approximate age range (graduated in 1980) and I wish I had had an older guy back then who could have given me advice.

[xxyc21]

Entertain this thought. No God wrote a Bible or Qur'an, str8 men did.

The real God created you and 1500+ species homosexual.

[LeaVeliz]

Thanks!

[nedetsontryton]

@whistonlass your son has a great mom

[rancy240]

my father says that "you cant play games! mum pays for the phone bills!" who cares? god is the one who pays phone bills and gives you the money you need idiot! not you dumbass. jesus says "mary, dont worry about house affairs..." my dad actually is worrying about affairs. just get over it!!!!

[yfblack]

cant help but notice...you had a shirt print that says BORACAY.have you been to the philippines?

[nbenjam2]

Wow it´s like you were speaking directly to me too. I'm from a small town and I've recently come out to myself while being outside the U.S. I'm coming back soon now and all these coming out videos have been immensly helpful....

[youbintubinallday]

Brothers, please do not give into these unclean thoughts. What you have become, is not what you are. As Jesus Christ said, "A man is flesh and blood, and he changes. Does he not remain the same man?" Be strong. Return to the love you had first. What got me is the internet.

[gymwannabeboy]

(cont.)

want the best for their son). And that made this even more real. I thank you for putting this up, and for givng me some reassurance and strength to keep on going and keep on being open with my parents. I just wish the pain would go away.

I know this is a REALLY long comment, but I felt compelled to write, not only to release some emotion, but to thank you so much.

Please keep me in your thoughts. I would highly appreciate it :)

[gymwannabeboy]

(con't.)

I know I need patience, and hopefully in time things will get better, and I won't have to cry myself to sleep another night knowing that I hurt my parents and have disappointed, after all the love they've given me all my life. It just makes me feel worse that I did something to people who love me, and still do no matter what.

Like I mentioned, I got emotional when I saw your video, because I saw A LOT of my parents in your description of yours (religious, loving parents who want

[gymwannabeboy]

(con't.)

case. While my parents have reaffirmed their love for me, I can see that they still feel disappointed, hurt, angry, and sad that they have a gay son. I can see it in their eyes, in their expression-less faces, and in their words.

But given that I love them so much, and they love me unconditionally, it PAINS and HURTS my heart to see them like this. I feel guilty of doing this to them, but Know that I need to be hoenst with them about who I am, since I love them so much.