Dan Savage on Swinging and Monogamy
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Uploaded by dansavage on Feb 26, 2009
One person considers swinging cheating, the other thinks if it doesn't happen, they will be forced to cheat. What does one do?
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I think Dan's definition of monogamy is different than ours. Think about it. When you are trying so fucking hard not to think about something, you end up thinking about it. 'Cause you have to think of it in order to not think of it. It's counter-productive. Get me? Accepting feelings as they already are makes things freer and less stressful. It's true! You'll be attracted to other people, whether you like it or not. You don't need to feel guilty or bad about yourself. It's purely biological.
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@ItsMoriashkiBitches "Sobriety" means "how drunk you are", basically.
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I fucking love you Dan! Thank you do much for doing what you do. I am in an "emotionally monogamous but sexually open" relationship and the way you word things often helps me get my point across with ease ~ so thanks.
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what does sabriaty mean?
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"I'm not in a monogumus relationship, I'm a fag." Imagin if a woman said that, disgusting double standard.
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We built a rocket and went to the moon ... natural? I think not. So try again.
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he's full of shit, he's saying we're no better than animals. bullshit
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Thus spaketh a queer jew.
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hmmm. Listen. Everything this guy says is true if you are not in love. The important thing is to try and stay in love. It is possible for ONE of the partners to stay in love but the probability of both is slimmer and hence these problems.
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I dont know. But when I fell in love at 36 I went a year loving this girl and sex was not everything but it was the best thing in our relationship. I was not attracted to others but she was...
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Monogamy isn't for everyone, but it doesn't mean that monogamists are in "despair" just because they chose to be with one person. And surprisingly enough, they're a lot of monogamist couples out there who don't even give a fuck about sex. My parents are one of them. They've been married for almost 30 years now, don't have much of a sex life, have never ONCE thought about divorcing, and are perfectly happy in their marriage.
Danachii 10 months ago 6
@keyki421 (guy) I'm with you on this one. If my gf said she wanted us to have sex with other people I'd be like what the fuck, not, 'oh, i can see how youre making our relationship better'
isJonneh 7 months ago 4