Vlog 7-31-07:Humans Cloaked in Gender Illusions

I was informed that I am NOT an FTM.
I guess I'll just curl up in a ball and die now. LOL

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• gender
• binary
• androgyny
• passing
• transgender
• genderqueer
• SamC74

[hulka99]

No, I still don't understand. The femmes I've enjoy as lovers never wanted to be "girls"...but playing with gender roles and appearance was fun. Dressing up was not some expression of their desire to be a girl, it was just "fun". I'd not have a problem with you being a gender rebel, but rather you're trying to be a "boy". It seems that you really aren't "tg", you're more gender rebel. Rebelling against the stereotypical role of a "girl". That's what I don't get.

[SamC74]

How can you make the statement "It seems that you really aren't tg" after earlier saying you "don't believe in TG"?? If you don't believe in something, then it can't be defined by you (whether rigidly or otherwise) since you simply don't believe it exists.

[hulka99]

You are mixing up "transgender" with your desire to break out of sterotypical gender roles, that's how I read you. Why not just be a girl whose not feminate, but butch, and boyish? That's my point. I've had boyfriends that were into being femmes and all, but none wanted to change their gender. They were femmes, and happy to be like that. At any rate, I support your right to be "yourself", so let's just let it go at that.

[SamC74]

I know myself and I will do what's right for me. I'm done with this discussion.

[hulka99]

I'm not disputing your desire to break out of gender norms, but you seem to want to embrace them instead. That's the difference of opinion between us. I LIKE femmes (effeminate males), and I find butches (Tomboy girls) interesting. But that's not the direction you seem to be going to. So You could be a lot more then a "boy" by being a boy-girl, I guess that's what I'm say. Whatever you decide, I wish the best of luck in getting it.

[SamC74]

Since you're someone who appreciates effeminate males, I'm wondering why you don't "get it". I've always idolized men with long hair and an androgynous appearance. If I had been born male, that's the kind of man I'd be. It makes sense then, me being a transguy, for me to naturally emulate androgynous/"effeminate" men. Understand now?

[themonkeywrench]

I just don't understand some people.

This "act like a guy/girl" crap is simply using stereotypes of a group to assume how an individual should look or act.

Really pisses me off. I bet this guy wouldn't say that a man who cries was not actually a man, but a lesbian because he's not "acting like a man", i.e., not fitting inside emotionally crippling traditional gender roles.

[carythalk1379]

PS - Mighty presumptive of whoever that was to assume that because you're an FtM that you like women (given that he called you a lesbian multiple times). I know LOTS of gay male FtMs, as well as several bi and pansexual FtMs. Gender and orientation are totally separate things. Duh!

[carythalk1379]

"Next time he says you're aren't really a guy because you're not on testosterone, ask him what HE was before he started T." <--- I'm guessing he was probably a child.

I see this is an older video, but good for you for not listening to that bullshit. I hope you're rocking out. I'm a flamboyantly gay TRANS guy who wears eyeliner and tighter jeans than before I came out. I sometimes even do drag. Anyone who doesn't like it can suck my massive purple glitter cock. ^^

[noktelfa]

As an MtF, I know exactly where you're coming from... First, people told me that I can't be MtF because "women don't stand up to pee", which I explained I don't, and then "women shave their armpits", which I explained I do, and then because I was too good-looking as a man (pre-transition). They said that I was really just gay and looking for a way to have sex with men (apparently it's easier to change sex than to be openly gay).

[TheOriginalOrlando]

i find it annoying when people don't get that anybody can be as masculine or as feminine as they want, regardless of whether or not they are TG. transboys can be effeminate and transgirls can be butch, if it's what they want to be.

[xrenegadexsadizt]

Anyone who feels the need to cut down other people's gender identities as if their opinion is holy writ is probably compensating for something...or just a dullard. Not all men, trans or otherwise, have to look the same and act the same. One's internal sense of gender, whatever it may be, isn't necessarily defined by all the performative crap. Speaking of which, I'd love to see what would happen if Troll went up to Alexi Laiho and called him a girl...but I say too much.

[flyer11234]

I love when the cat non chalantly walks into the pic....while you're saying...'why don't you go fuck chris crocker? then the cat puts her ears back..lol...

[slimdudeDJC]

Your hair is beautiful!!! Sexy even. . . . whatever you may be identified as. ..

[tjaysone]

I think you are great. Only you know how you feel and what you want.  If all guys were more like you, what a wonderful world it would be!! Ever see The Meaning of LIfe....Monty Python? the baby comes out and the first thing someone says is "is it a boy or girl" The Doc says "dont you think it is a bit early to impose roles on it?

[Elentaurel]

You and I are so much alike it's crazy! I used to care so much about passing as a guy, and having male mannerisms. But after a while I realized that passing didn't matter at all, because what other people thought was unimportant. So now I dress and act however I want, even if those mannerisms are "female." I consider myself pangendered more than f2m really. And why do some people consider long hair instantly "feminine"? So every guy with long hair is suddenly a women now? xD

[tjaysone]

It is hard to figure why anyone would want testosterone. I'm a 58 y/o guy who has wished he was female for 54 years. I can empathize, because I am similar yet opposite to you. But, I would also give anything to be in your shoes. I'm so glad you are so free in your thoughts, but your uniqueness would be hampered by the every guy dresses the same part of society.