How To Deal With a Verbally Abusive Boyfriend

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No one deserves to be anyone else's punching bag, physically or verbally. Take steps to remedy the situation.

To complete this How-To you will need:

Self-awareness
Courage
Determination
Counseling (optional)

Step 1: Recognize abuse

Recognize that there are many forms of abuse that don't include physical violence. If your boyfriend demeans you, makes you account for your whereabouts, tells you how to dress and act, or tries to dictate who you can and cannot see, those are all forms of abuse.

Tip: Verbal abuse often escalates to physical abuse.

Step 2: Don't blame yourself

Don't blame yourself. Despite what he may say, you are not bringing this on yourself. No one deserves to be treated disrespectfully.

Step 3: Suggest he get help

Suggest he get counseling to deal with the issues that might be driving his behavior, like low self-esteem. You might also benefit from counseling to help you understand the impact of his abuse.

Step 4: Stand up for yourself

Tell your boyfriend you will not tolerate insults or controlling behavior -- and mean it. Prepare for the possibility you might walk out.

Step 5: End things

If the abuse continues, end the relationship. Break things off during the day, in a public place, just to be on the safe side. Ask trusted friends to keep an eye out for retaliatory behavior.

Tip: If he's given you any reason to feel unsafe, try not to be alone for a while after the breakup.

Step 6: Resist attempts to win you back

Resist his attempts to win you back. Abusive relationships often fit a pattern of cruelty, followed by apologies and promises to change, followed by more abuse.

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[TheAwesomeBunny1]

Step one:

Dump the HELL` out of him.

Optional: Kick his balls`

[bubblelemodrop3]

That guy looks like an ape...

[danone1231]

holy crap 

[XxMarMarx]

That actress is so beautiful!! #Jelly :D

[teamzirbs6]

@hime2344 ; yeah same here =P

[hime2344]

i been a victim of this

[XRyanRevengeX]

love is a joke

[ichigoxmarura15]

@noobz4lif You can be a victim of verbal abuse too, you know. It has nothing to do with gender.

[KraftwithaK]

@turkeychuck Oh, you are soooo single.  I just know it.

[turkeychuck]

step one..put a leash on the woman step 2..smack her like a rag tag bitch

[reymatt76]

Here's what I've done: Drive away, change your phone number. No more problem! Really, it's really that easy. If you won't do that, then you have no right to complain. And yes, I do speak from experience. I realize it's sometimes gradual, and you can't just leave every guy because he said something to hurt your feelings, but you'll know when enough's enough. Always look out for #1, never forget that.